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#200070 - 01/18/08 09:39 AM a later insight
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Edited by MarkK (04/16/08 02:12 PM)

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#200071 - 01/18/08 10:00 AM Re: a later insight [Re: MarkK]
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Mark

Your poem has made me cry. I am so not in touch with my inner child. I feel so sorry for him because I can not relate to him or find the proper way for him to heal. I hear that "little guy" hating me becaue I did not defend him through the abuse. I know I tried more than once to tell his mom, but I know I should have been more persistant.

I hope some day that "little guy" will forgive me. I was and still am a bad person to him. I do hate myself for not taking care of him and loving him.

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I AM A GOOD PERSON, I AM A GOOD MAN

From the Movie: Antwone Fisher

***WOR ALUMNI SEQUOIA MARCH 2008***

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#200088 - 01/18/08 12:34 PM Re: a later insight [Re: KENKEN]
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Mark and KenKen,

sorry you guys are hurting right now...

weapher

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#200260 - 01/19/08 06:44 PM Re: a later insight [Re: weapher]
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Ken - I think maybe you're being too rough on yourself. I only say it because I was there once - hating myself for my failing Little Mark - wondering if he'd ever forgive me.

biggest part of the problem was more the adult me that needed to forgive myself...


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#200842 - 01/23/08 06:51 AM Re: a later insight [Re: MarkK]
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Mark, Ken,

Whether we are talking about the little guys or the adults we are now, I think it's so important to be gentle with ourselves. We didn't have the resources to defend ourselves back then, and in many ways the harm done to us remains with us in adulthood. These things can be resolved, but it takes time. You will get there when you can, and the moment you do that, it will be the very first moment it was possible for you.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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