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#200206 - 01/19/08 10:57 AM Survived again
RICK57 Offline
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Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Loc: ENGLAND
Hi - not been here for a while, as I have been hospitalised following a car crash on 27th Dec.

If you are squeamish, don't read anymore.

My car was written off in the accident, and I don't know how I survived when I see pictures of it.

I was partly scalped by the air bag. fractured a bone in my shoulder, broke 3 ribs, cracked my sternum and bruised every other rib. My left femur was smashed to pieces.

I was in traction for nearly two weeks before they could remove the debris from my hip and re-build it. The operation was 8th Jan. I've been released from hospital on crutches with strict instructions on what I can and cannot do.

Whilst in hospital, I developed a fever twice due to secondary infections and some reactions to the accident (top of my brain was inflamed). Whilst in the fever, I became delusional and started shouting about paedophiles and child abusers - they moved me into a side ward as I was traumatising other patients.

The positives of this situation is that I am now going to receive some specialist psycho-sexual councelling whatever that is.

The best thing though, is that I thought I had a few friends, and people at work that tolerated me. Well I've got more friends than I ever thought, as people that I hadn't seen for years turned up at the hospital, along with the people that are in my life now. Many of the people that I work with also turned up. I still have a constant stream of visitors now that I am home. I really can't believe how many people genuinely care about me. The common theme seems to be that they care about me because one way or another I have helped each and every one of them some way in the past (I didn't realise much of this until they told me).

I very much believe in 'Quid pro quo' - what goes around comes around.

If there are people in your life that you care about, make sure you let them know - the people that care about me nearly didn't get that chance.

P.S. - I'm hobbling about now, and will take some time to fully mend, but I'm a survivor, so I will be OK.

Best wishes ..Rik

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*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

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#200219 - 01/19/08 01:50 PM Re: Survived again [Re: RICK57]
Lazarus Offline
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Best wishes for your speedy and complete recovery, Rik!

Originally Posted By: RICK57
I really can't believe how many people genuinely care about me.


Believe it, buddy! It's a common thread among those of us who have been abused in the past to feel worthless, inadequate, barely tolerated by those around us. It's another way we delude ourselves, another way our abusers damaged our thinking. Way more often than not that feeling is absolutely not true!

Thanks for your uplifting post. We are all good people, if we'll just admit it to ourselves.

Lazarus

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#200220 - 01/19/08 01:51 PM Re: Survived again [Re: RICK57]
frost Offline
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Registered: 03/15/07
Posts: 1377
Loc: Eh?
Rick,

Such an awesome message from such a strong survivor. It sounds like an intensely painful experience and I'm sure you're still feeling much of that physical trauma today. I love how you can pull positives out of such an experience. Spoken like a true optimist.

Glad you survived again, and glad you're back here with us.

~Brian

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#200228 - 01/19/08 02:21 PM Re: Survived again [Re: frost]
Freedom49 Offline
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Registered: 12/30/07
Posts: 2723
Loc: Washington State
Rick,
I work in a hospital and I can picture all of your injuries in my mind. I have seen and worked in surgery on that and worse. You have had some excellent care man. Physical and emotional. You are a very lucky guy on many levels. Don't pat yourself on the back...you will tear something. Let us do that for you man. It is so true though, little things we do for people which don't seem to cost us anything can mean a lot to someone else. We may never see it till something happens and they seem to come out of the woodwork. Surprising the daylights out of us. You are blessed. Speedy recovery.

Roger


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#200393 - 01/20/08 01:38 PM Re: Survived again [Re: Freedom49]
RICK57 Offline
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Registered: 12/31/03
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Loc: ENGLAND
Thanks for the comments. It's a bit of a strange paradox for me! When I first came here, I needed some emotional crutches, and quickly found them right when I needed them. Now I feel like I've been given more of the same, plus the ones I need to get myself going again physically.

What I also meant to say previously was - It feels really good to be alive. I think now for the first time in years, I know what goodness I really have in my life. It was almost worth going through the crash to realise that! *PS - I don't advise anyone else trying the same!

Best wishes ...Rik

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*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

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#200403 - 01/20/08 04:15 PM Re: Survived again [Re: RICK57]
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Registered: 08/30/05
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Rick! Holy smokes, Bro!

I'm so sorry you got all broke and battered up! Glad you're on the mend. Also glad you discovered how much you mean to the people who care about you. It's amazing isn't it? We go through our lives never realizing the impact we've had on others. Glad you got to chance to find that out, though I'm sorry for how it happened!

Lots of love,

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#200418 - 01/20/08 06:19 PM Re: Survived again [Re: WalkingSouth]
Paul1959 Offline
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Registered: 05/17/06
Posts: 525
Loc: NYC
Rick,
Wow. What a story. You are indeed lucky to be alive. And what a great lesson to impart to all of us. Thanks for the reminder. You are appreciated here. thanks for checking in. please keep us posted. There are going to be some rough days ahead. lean on us then as well
Paul


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