I think Mike had a key consideration for you:
Would you describe another person with your values the way you describe yourself?
Your answer was no, but because you know yourself better than you know others. But I would like to press you a bit on this one. As you come to know people better, do you find yourself accumulating a whole range of negative feelings about them? Probably not. So the answer isn't that as you get to know a person better you come to see their flaws, and since you know yourself best, you are acutely aware of all your failings.
I think many of us have felt like this at one time or another, though, so what's going on? I think, Mark, that the answer is that when we look at ourselves we are doing that through the prism of our own experiences. We see what we feel. We think that our feelings are accurate, so we judge ourselves accordingly. For example, I feel
shameful, so I think I am
That's why dealing with our feelings is so vital in our recovery. Once we drag them out into the open we can work on them, and what we find is that they aren't true. They are in almost all cases part of the false lessons taught by abuse and abusers.