i'm a little confused. my abuse started at age 14. i am now 20, i care about style and fashion very much, i make sure i look nice, i even reverted to frosting my tips(my hair). suddenly i'm getting comments from my family and friends about being gay . is looking nice a problem? i don't think so, but everyone seems to make it into one. not many of my friends and none of my family know about my sa, so i kinda just deal with it and act as if i don't care, and sometimes it even hurts, but i don't know what else to do. any suggestions? i don't wanna not look good, but i hate that a straight guy can't look good without being gay. it bothers me. but what is there to do without completely dropping my personality?!

Terpprm,

Well the wedding should answer any lingering questions about your sexuality. LOL

Just be sure to use tongue, while you standing on the alter.

That way the whole family will see you acting straight, even with the frosted tips and tux. LMAO

TTYL,
Carl

BTW.... frosted tips and tux.... sounds HOTTTT !!!!! to me. ROTFLMAO ... ...

lol! let's hope so! you're so funny! i can't wait to do it!!! i wanna see you there just so you can see that i took your advice! ha!

I'll volunteer as an Usher.

I looooook so good in a tux!!! (if I do say so myself)

Hmmm... may have to have my tips frosted also.

Just send me the info...

LOL LOL LOL... ... ...

Carl

lol...i talk to my better half bout the ushering! lol

Okay...let me know....

all right...I have got to go to bed...got to work in the morning.

G'night....

welcome back again,

Carl

thanks buddy. talk to you soon. g'nite.

I would'nt give a flying fk what "people say." Maybe you are surrounded by nuckleheads.

Don't worry about it, they are just being silly with the teasing. I live in a very gay-friendly city, and hetero guys around here have a tendency to dress and look great. It confuses me sometimes, because often the straight men look and dress better than a lot of the gay men!

Keep it up, they're just jealous that you look great!

I thought metrosexual (looking good, but being straight) was in right now? lol Besides, why does being called gay have to have bad connotations and make you feel bad? Take it as a compliment and just say, happily, "Nope! I'm not. But I am fabulous!" LOL

it's not necesarily bad, but it's not good for your fiance' to constantly hear either. i am metro. that's what i claim and my fiance' knows that.

lol Yeah. At least she knows not many women will be hitting on you. lol

Very good point Andy! Thank you for that.

I can also see how that could be bad for your fiance to hear.

Craig

I like to say that I'm a "Modern Man." I also like to look good, pay way to much for a haircut, use product and sleep with women. Its all good. . . LOL

Terpprm,

It is rediculous. Wanting to care of how you look or present yourself have nothing to do with being gay. I have had that similar, experience, recently. Because I do not care so much how I look, but because I work in cold and dry place and I buy certain kind of soaps and lotions to keep my skin from drying up. And a co-worker make mention of that, 'oh, will you be coming out of the closet soon?'. It is rediculous and stupid kind of thinking, and it do not really mean anything about you. It is showing the 'close mindedness' of the people making such comments.

VN

thank you all for your support! it means oh so much to me!

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Who decides what is "dressing well" anyway? If I buy my clothes at thrift stores and not use product in my hair does that mean I'm "unkempt?" I mean I do still shower and shave. LOL

I couldn't pass for an Ambercrombie model anyway. lol

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Wait till your over forty... then it won't matter either way.

Gay / Straight... who cares what they think. Envy, that's what I think.

keep lookin good

weapher

I can so relate to the "million dollar" feel after getting a new haircut with product in it. Heck, I still feel that now when I get a haircut. LOL

That's such a great story, Awakening. It's good to remember the good things about our childhoods, too.

Me too!
Thanks Awakening. Well done!
Gert

hey. just so everyone knows. i get about 85% of my clothes from thrift stores and still look fabulous! lol...just gotta know what to wear them with.

Terpprm,

Hmmmm...this better be a well stocked thrift store.

If all of us guys in the wedding party have to get matching tux's there. I just hope they also carry large sizes.

BTW.... what date should I mark in my calendar. I will have to make travel plans and all.

Just let me know.

LMAO

Carl

i got my tux at the thrift store...but i don't think the other guys will be so lucky! i paid $11 and didn't have to have a thing tailored. we haven't set a date yet' but do to money and everything else it's looking like next year sometime. so you have a while yet. i'll put up an anouncement on here when i know a date!