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#199036 - 01/11/08 01:07 PM Re: i have decided [Re: MarkK]
roadrunner Offline
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Mark,

This one's a very VERY personal issue, I think, so I'll just offer how it has affected me. For the longest time I felt like I deserved to be laughed at; I felt like such a worthless fraud at every aspect of life that it was difficult for me to see how anyone would not have a good chuckle at my expense. But if I felt that someone was actually doing it, or if a case really did come up, yes, it hurt like hell.

All I can say, Mark, is that - for me at least - this wasn't one I was able to work on by itself. I think that's because in my case the sensitivity came from abysmal self-esteem. But as my sense of self-worth improved so did my ability to handle situations where in the past I would heve felt ridiculed.

Ultimately, someone who deliberately belittles and mocks another is saying a lot about himself and nothing about his victim. As we regain a sense of perspective that becomes easier to see.

I don't say that to minimize how you feel. This is just my take on the problem and maybe it won't sound familiar to you at all.

Much love,
Larry

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#199054 - 01/11/08 03:44 PM Re: i have decided [Re: roadrunner]
MarkK Offline
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Loc: Denver, CO
Larry,

Yeah, this one is personal - i almost didn't post it, but it just hurts so much i guess maybe i needed to know other people could understand where i'm at.
Originally Posted By: roadrunner
I don't say that to minimize how you feel. This is just my take on the problem and maybe it won't sound familiar to you at all.
i didn't for a moment think it was said to minimize anything, but thanx for saying so. and familiar? yeah. one of the things my T and i have as something to "look into" - if i ever get through the current swamp...

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#199057 - 01/11/08 04:07 PM Re: i have decided [Re: MarkK]
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My Dad used to laugh whenever I hurt myself, he'd use that same line Mark, "I'm not laughing at you I'm laughing with you" it's funny because I never once remember laughing when I hurt myself.

My avatar is from when I tried to ride my skateboard down the hill behind me and I wiped out and smashed my head and I started crying. The picture is being taken by my Dad as he's laughing his ass off at me. That's me not having any idea why my Dad thinks my pain is funny.

Mike

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#199058 - 01/11/08 04:31 PM Re: i have decided [Re: mogigo]
MarkK Offline
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Loc: Denver, CO
yeah .. i remember Dad's laughter ..

unfortunately


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#199067 - 01/11/08 05:01 PM Re: i have decided [Re: MarkK]
mogigo Offline
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Thanks Mark, what I do know now though is my Dad is a weak weak man. He could only wish to be as brave and strong as I am.

I hope you know this too Mark

Mike

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#199126 - 01/11/08 11:08 PM Re: i have decided [Re: MarkK]
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwajTBh5vAY


They All Laughed


They all laughed at Christopher Columbus
When he said the world was round
They all laughed when Edison recorded sound
They all laughed at Wilbur and his brother
When they said that man could fly

They told Marconi
Wireless was a phony
It's the same old cry
They laughed at me wanting you
Said I was reaching for the moon
But oh, you came through
Now they'll have to change their tune

They all said we never could be happy
They laughed at us and how!
But ho, ho, ho!
Who's got the last laugh now?

They all laughed at Rockefeller Center
Now they're fighting to get in
They all laughed at Whitney and his cotton gin
They all laughed at Fulton and his steamboat
Hershey and his chocolate bar

Ford and his Lizzie
Kept the laughers busy
That's how people are
They laughed at me wanting you
Said it would be, "Hello, Goodbye."
But oh, you came through
Now they're eating humble pie

They all said we'd never get together
Darling, let's take a bow
For ho, ho, ho!
Who's got the last laugh?
Hee, hee, hee!
Let's at the past laugh
Ha, ha, ha!
Who's got the last laugh now?"




Edited by JasonSmalls (01/11/08 11:09 PM)

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#199138 - 01/12/08 01:30 AM Re: i have decided [Re: JasonSmalls]
TJ jeff Offline

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Loc: Northern Wisconsin
Mike,

I'm sorry your dad laughed at you when you were in pain - my mother used to do that much too (of course she was the cause of much of the pain that had me crying in the first place)

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