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#198023 - 01/05/08 10:49 AM Re: Playing the Part. [Re: BJK]
dancr6 Offline

Registered: 12/02/07
Posts: 383
Loc: georgia
Bryan, I understand a lot of what you are talking about. My mother wasn't around much but when she was she frequently exaggerating or pretended illness. I have always and still do have a low tolerance for anyone who exaggerates when they are sick. I also attended a 12 step sexual survivors group twice and couldn't tolerate the poor me attitudes that prevailed. It sounded as if they were completely content in remaining victims. :-(
I still have tremendous compassion for CSA victims and will respond to any genuine call for help. Even if it is exaggerated I will offer help with the idea of getting past the superficial part and to the real issue. I know that my judgments are clouded by my own CSA and I don't want to take the chance of denying someone who is in need of help but doesn't know how to show it in genuine terms.


I'm a freeman now, his authority's dead
no pain monger lies in my comfortable bed!

#198033 - 01/05/08 11:27 AM Re: Playing the Part. [Re: dancr6]
alexey Offline
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Registered: 08/16/05
Posts: 1674
Loc: Moscow, Russia

It is not a short time program to recover. You will learn more and be more confident in your believes with time, and with help. You will succeed.


When you feel all alone and unhappy, turn to you Inner Child and talk to Him.
You will see He can comfort you like nothing else!

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