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#196157 - 12/21/07 09:43 AM Embrace
Bobby Offline
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Registered: 12/01/04
Posts: 1287
Loc: Arizona
It is the hug, is it not, that we seek?
The innocent hug
The one that lets us finally rest in someone's arms
Safety
The love we sought as little boys
Needed
Offered by a new-found friend
So kind
So caring
A demon in the rough
Wanting to recoil
Not knowing how
How to stop
Hating what he did
But needing it so much
The love
That.......
And so, there was no refuge to be had
No strength to protect
Only strength that used
Confused us beyond all measure
Until, finally, no man was safe
All men the enemy
Needing more than friendship
So much more
Still trapped inside an ancient fear
And so, the hug
The eternal embrace
Safety that we've never known
But, who could understand
In a world so wrapped up in earthly taboos
Who could understand
That such a simple thing
An understanding embrace
Seeking nothing in return
Could cause an exhausted man to collapse in tears
And a little boy to, at last, find safety

_________________________
I'm healing now, and I wasn't sure I would.




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#196202 - 12/21/07 07:02 PM Re: Embrace [Re: Bobby]
dancr6 Offline
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Registered: 12/02/07
Posts: 383
Loc: georgia
If I could fantasize that the man exists
That would be gently confused with the term “boundaries”
I could take a step toward his comforting chest
Lie down and experience my brothers concern.
He could reach with his hand to brush over my head
And I wouldn’t tense up at his touch
I fear that there has to be borders around
and I make myself sentry
He is humored at my naiveté
knowing his intimacy is pure
He’s my brother you see not the dark illusion
that my perp put on me.


Bobby I'm in awe, Thank you

_________________________
I'm a freeman now, his authority's dead
no pain monger lies in my comfortable bed!

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#196318 - 12/22/07 07:40 PM Re: Embrace [Re: dancr6]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Bobby,

When I disclosed to my parents two years ago, I arranged to do this in the office of a therapist near where they live. My Mom and Dad walked into the room and I stood to meet them. Before I could do more than take a step or two they had come right up to me and giving me hugs and telling me that whatever it was I could tell them and it would be okay - they were there for me. But I hardly heard what they had to say - what counted was the hugs!

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#196328 - 12/22/07 08:43 PM Re: Embrace [Re: roadrunner]
EGL Offline
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Registered: 06/19/04
Posts: 7821
((Bobby)) A soft, safe hug for you, my friend. You are so right about how it is the love we sought as little boys, and what we should have received. It's through you and many others here that I'm learning how to trust those kind of hugs again. Thank you.

_________________________
Eddie

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