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#195989 - 12/19/07 10:14 PM is there ever a day that goes by you don't...think
bmac Offline
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Registered: 09/28/07
Posts: 27
Loc: Atlantic Canada
why can't I seem to have the opportunity to break down, I want to break down, but seems I always put others ahead of me, is there a time were you just need to take for you and break down, and will someone be there to catch you, so difficult for me because no one has ever been there before and now that trust is hard to open up to, especially when you feel like you need to be there for them more................it's hard.......I want to trust, I want to break down, I want to stop thinking all my bad thoughts for just a day...........how can i stop my thoughts from remembering such horrible past......? any suggestions? Please


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#195992 - 12/19/07 10:21 PM Re: is there ever a day that goes by you don't...think [Re: bmac]
OKIE MIKE Offline
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Registered: 02/13/04
Posts: 979
Loc: HULBERT OK
Trust me you Don't want to have a nervious break down .
I have not had a day that I do not recal my memorys . It is something that I have had to try and live with

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#195993 - 12/19/07 10:23 PM Re: is there ever a day that goes by you don't...think [Re: OKIE MIKE]
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I don't know what i want, just feel like I need to break down, but not sure if now is the right time, if there is such a thing, this has been a couple of very hard days, not sure I can keep going............the confusion is making it worse i think.......


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#196032 - 12/20/07 12:30 PM Re: is there ever a day that goes by you don't...think [Re: bmac]
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Registered: 08/16/05
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Loc: Moscow, Russia
bmac,

Sometimes is is my only desire to lay and start being sorry for myself. Let's call it a breakdown. I think you are struggling too hard to heal, and you probably don't have enough support resources. That causes fatigue and lack of tonus.

I do have hard days, but I always try to find calmity and don't get overworked on my own issues. Try doing something enjoyable for yourself, like buying sweet, for example.

A therapist can be a good supporter for your situation too.

Take care.

Alexey

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#196585 - 12/25/07 06:19 AM Re: is there ever a day that goes by you don't...think [Re: alexey]
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Registered: 08/29/06
Posts: 228
Loc: Alaska
Hi bmac,

I've had 7 surgeries---3 knee, 2 elbow, rotater cuff, and spinal from playing sports like a madman. I had the surgery which was painful, did my rehab and now I don't feel pain there, although there are scars.

I think being a victim of Sa is like that process-- you get hurt, you hasve to rehab and that is tough, but eventually the pain doesn't rule your life. There is still a scar but no longer hurt.

I think it's a process----and you never really know where you are in it, but there are members here who have achieved peace and wholness beyond the hurt.

Keep up the good fight---you're worth it!

Frank


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