I think people tell you this because what you do telling thers about your story is indded takes courage and strength. For a human being it is very difficult to face problems like having survived sexual abuse because: the man feels the original pain, he can experience various emotions that were really frozen for many years. It is also a huge problem that men have a burden of guilt being put in their minds by abusers, and this guilt makesi almost impossible to enjoy life, allow yourself to be good to yourself, to dare, etc.
When you start talking to people abut your abuse history, you take a huge step to start solving the issues which affect your life every day, and you start to face the feelings that can be painful. It is complex, I know, but the fact is you are heaing and people like it.
When you feel all alone and unhappy, turn to you Inner Child and talk to Him.
You will see He can comfort you like nothing else!