I'm a big music guy, and when I can't find the words, I seem to always be able to find a song to say the words for me.
"If someone else is suffering enough to write it down, when every single word makes sense, then it's easier to have those sons around. If deep inside you find a line that finally gets to you, and it feels so good to hurt so bad, and suffer just enough to sing the blues. - Elton, Sad Songs "When all hope is gone, why don't you tune in and turn them on".
It can feel good to just feel sad sometimes, something I was told I wasn't allowed to do.