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#194872 - 12/11/07 08:40 PM .
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#194874 - 12/11/07 08:56 PM Re: Anger issues [Re: bardo213]
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Hey Lynch, I found writing a letter to be my abs=user helped greatly to release some of that anger I had buried so deep. The letter is most definately a work in progress in that I started out with a short and sweet one but I still have so much more to say.One guy I talked to said he's wrote over 10 and they get longer everytime. It might be good practice just so know what you'll want to say when the time comes.

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Mike

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#194878 - 12/11/07 09:07 PM Re: [Re: mogigo]
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#194879 - 12/11/07 09:29 PM Re: Anger issues [Re: bardo213]
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Hey, sorry I do know what you're saying. I wasn't really suggesting it as an alternative just as a release. I found the note as a release for my anger that actually took away my explosiveness when I did confront my Father. It just gave an outlet for the blast that would have happened if I just went straight to him with it. When I did have that first exchange with my Father it was by e-mail, not sure if this is an option for you but when I did finally talk to him in person all the big stuff that I needed to say was already out there and we could concentrate on the healing that needed to be done instead of what I just needed to get out. I spent hours writing that e-mail and what I said would have taken 5 minutes in a conversation. It gave me a chance to really think about all the stuff I needed to say.

My relationship with my Dad is strained at this point because I don't think he ever really heard alot of what I was saying, but I know he wouldn't have taken anything in if I had of exploded on him. My Dad is definately a disaster when it comes to having a relationship with the kind of person I am but he's trying in his own sad little way. I know some of it is registering. I needed to drop my expectations about a mile, but at least the dialog is out there.

Again Lynch, not at all what I wanted, expected or needed. But better than what we had.

Stay strong buddy
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#194882 - 12/11/07 09:38 PM Re: Anger issues [Re: mogigo]
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Just wanted to be clear my abuser wasn't my Father but after the one I wrote to my abuser helped me so much I've written many more to pretty much all the people who have had an effect on my life.

Just didn't want any confusion Lynch sorry.

Mike

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