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#193988 - 12/06/07 01:34 AM triggered today
JasonSmalls Offline
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Registered: 12/01/07
Posts: 142
Loc: NJ
i was watching this movie a little while ago and this boys got sent to a reform school for killin some guy by accident. actually they pushed this guys hot dog cart and it ran him over. ooops. i thought it was funny, but u can kinda see my sense of humor. anywayz, everything is goin along good in the movie until some guards take the four boys into a room in the basement. i think i kinda knew what was gonna happen, but i kept it on for a lil while longer. then i freaked out. the movie didnt show anythin but ya still kinda knew what was happenin.
when i get scared i start shakin and i cant stop and unfortunatly i cant hold my pee either. i was freaked out sooo bad and i'm kinda relivin it in my head now. i hate this feelin soooo much. i hate feelin scared all the time and i cant even watch a movie without loosin it. i dunno. guess its kinda dumb.


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#193990 - 12/06/07 02:26 AM Re: triggered today [Re: JasonSmalls]
mogigo Offline
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Registered: 04/24/07
Posts: 1331
Loc: Colorado
"The Boy's of St. Vincent", saw it just the other day. Kind of freaked me out too. I think there is a list of movies somewhere on the sight that will warn you about these kinds of movies, Mod's?. I saw the start and kind of was frozen when the scene came on but then it switched to when they were adult's so I thought it would be okay, but then there are a few flashback scenes in the flick, should have took the hint from the start. Definately not recommended for survivor's. The falshbacks were worse because I kind of related to how they just pop up.

Take a look at the list J, I've never looked myself but I'm sure not to many triggering ones aren't on it. Better just to avoid them.

Stay strong
Mike

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#193992 - 12/06/07 03:03 AM Re: triggered today [Re: mogigo]
mogigo Offline
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Registered: 04/24/07
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Loc: Colorado
Here's a small list I took from another site, I was kind of shocked this movie wasn't on it. I'm sure the Mod's will add any not already there.

AN AMERICAN HAUNTING
MYSTIC RIVER
NIGHT LISTENER
FRIED GREEN TOMATOES
PRINCE OF TIDES
FOREST GUMP
SLEEPERS
NOTES ON A SCANDAL
MONSTER RAIN
THE UNSEEN

Mike

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#193995 - 12/06/07 03:22 AM Re: triggered today [Re: mogigo]
mogigo Offline
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Registered: 04/24/07
Posts: 1331
Loc: Colorado
It's in the "bookstore" section jason, kind of weird because it seems to be for people who "want" to see these movies????

Should be a sticky.

Mike

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#194008 - 12/06/07 09:06 AM Re: triggered today [Re: mogigo]
Jarrad Offline
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Registered: 10/27/06
Posts: 1071
Loc: arizona
the movie was "sleepers" right? the book is much more graphic. i would shy away from it if the movie triggered you. although, the movie does do a really great job of showing the aftermath and comparing how different boys deal with csa later in life.


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#194010 - 12/06/07 09:15 AM Re: triggered today [Re: Jarrad]
Still Offline
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Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 6602
Loc: FEMA Region 1
The killing of Kevin Bacon in that moview was SO FKG SWEET!!!! You cant tell me you didn't cheer inside.

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#194012 - 12/06/07 09:24 AM Re: triggered today [Re: Still]
Jarrad Offline
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Registered: 10/27/06
Posts: 1071
Loc: arizona
i didn't cheer actually. yeah he was a villian, but i dont belive that anyone should die regardless of the situation.


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#194017 - 12/06/07 09:48 AM Re: triggered today [Re: Jarrad]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Jason,

The way you feel isn't dumb at all! The movie "Sleepers" is the one you saw, and please don't get down on yourself for feeling triggered by it. It's a very disturbing film and the abuse scenes are explicit enough to freak out any survivor. In the book I am doing about the way CSA is portrayed in world cinema this film gets a **** (near maximum) trigger warning.

I hope you will go to your grandfather and talk to him about this. Say how you feel and don't be afraid he will think you're a wuss or anything like that. He seems a sensitive caring man and I know he will want to help you. When we feel badly triggered it's crucial that we not sit alone and isolated.

So far as other films are concerned, you could have a look at the list of films I posted in the bookstore. It's not 100% up to date, but you will see how many films there are out there that specifically and directly deal with the issue of male childhood sexual abuse. All the ones available from Amazon are there, and at the beginning I also have a list of those that are not available from Amazon. It's all alphabetical, so you can find what you want pretty quickly.

Based on your reaction to "Sleepers" it might be a good idea for you to avoid all these films for the time being. Many of them are very good and perform an important service by drawing attention to the issue of CSA, but that doesn't mean they should be watched by survivors struggling with those very issues. There are, in fact, some films that I would not recommend that ANY survivor watch if he is alone.

Much love,
Larry

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#194033 - 12/06/07 11:02 AM Re: triggered today [Re: roadrunner]
thesun3 Offline
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Registered: 11/06/07
Posts: 49
Hello Roadrunner.... I agree with you about these movies not being for some survivors. I always become sad, gloomy and withdrawn after seeing movies with CSA content...I feel like I want to cry everytime I see the abuse on screen...I start to re-live the isolation and the shame of my abuse. The actors do fabulous jobs portraying victims and perps....but it can be too much for me....

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#194075 - 12/06/07 01:04 PM Re: triggered today [Re: thesun3]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
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Loc: Carlisle, PA
thesun3,

Yep. I think we all need to acknowledge where we are in our recovery and keep within safe boundaries. There's nothing wrong with saying, "Hey, I can't watch that film today." We don't owe anyone an audience - our recovery is about ourselves first. That is, we have to have strength for ourselves before we have anything to give for some other task.

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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