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#192548 - 11/25/07 12:31 AM Realistic timeframe to recovery?
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Is there even such a thing?

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#192549 - 11/25/07 12:33 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: Frog]
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I'd say no, frog

Mike

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#192553 - 11/25/07 01:13 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: mogigo]
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I tend to agree with Mike, here. The hard part with timelines is that everyone is different; has experienced different depths and intensity of trauma; address situations personally and differently; an a host of items that put us all in different places and on variously different time-lines. Treating sexual abuse victimization is not "one size fits all" but rather a process through which we each journey. That's why I encourage each person to focus on their own personal recovery instead of comparing ourselves to others around us.

Wouldn't it be nice to know you can cure and resolve the trauma from abuse in 25 sessions or less?

Howard

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#192556 - 11/25/07 01:32 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: ScottyTodd]
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Frog,

I would say no as well. We are all different as people, our backgrounds differ, and our abuse experiences are not the same. One issue that devastates me may not be all that important in your case.

It often happens that courts or medical authorities will grant a survivor a certain number of sessions, but that reflects only the financial politics, not the needs of the survivor.

Much love,
Larry

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#192558 - 11/25/07 01:44 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: roadrunner]
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Damn it...I don't want to spend any more time than necessary to recover...

I'm tired...

I just want to be well...

Functional not Dysfunctional ...

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A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: "Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time." When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment, "The one I feed the most."

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#192561 - 11/25/07 01:53 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: Frog]
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Frog,

Originally Posted By: Frog
Damn it...I don't want to spend any more time than necessary to recover...


You won't! You will make the moves and decision you need to make as soon as you are able and as soon as the time is right for you. I remember this impatient feeling too, and I found that when I could relax and be a bit more at peace with myself, that in itself helped me to move forward.

I also discovered that it wasn't the end of the world if things went slow or if I slipped now and then. Remember my thread about Fuck Recovery Day? \:\) There's some great stuff there, including a great poem by David (MemoryVault).

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can make me turn back:
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#192562 - 11/25/07 01:53 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: Frog]
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I have learned that I cannot set expectations on a time frame for myself because its not 26-year-old Brian who's in charge of recovery. It's 6-year-old Brian who's in charge. It can seem like its taking so long, and occasionally seems like its going at a fairly good pace.

I have also learned that patience with the process is very important. There are so many times when I sound similar to you this night in that, all I want is for this process to be done with. I just want to proclaim that I'm healed and ready to move on. My impatience results on my being down on myself for not being where I want to be with it... Which in and of itself tends to be a trap that I think many of us get stuck in from time to time.

Things do get better. Hang in there Frog. You're doing well.

~Brian

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#192563 - 11/25/07 01:57 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: roadrunner]
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Originally Posted By: roadrunner
Frog,

Originally Posted By: Frog
Damn it...I don't want to spend any more time than necessary to recover...


Remember my post about Fuck Recovery Day? \:\)

Much love,
Larry



One of MY FAVORITE posts... \:\)

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A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: "Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time." When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment, "The one I feed the most."

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#192566 - 11/25/07 02:01 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: Frog]
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Frog,

Fantastic! Go back and reread it, if you will. I put in the link after I first posted my comment above. I think it will really help you to see how other guys allowed themselves to poke fun at this one. Sometimes a smile really does work wonders, especially if we can do it together.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#192567 - 11/25/07 02:01 AM Re: Realistic timeframe to recovery? [Re: frost]
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Originally Posted By: frost


There are so many times when I sound similar to you this night in that, all I want is for this process to be done with. I just want to proclaim that I'm healed and ready to move on. My impatience results on my being down on myself for not being where I want to be with it...

~Brian


WOW.... I FEEL that most of the time lately... and I'm sure the GF feels the same
as well, as she is becoming impatient as am I.... bless her for coming this far
by my side....

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