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#191994 - 11/20/07 12:27 PM wanting to post story
glad2beme Offline
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My story has different sources of abuse including sexual physcial emotional and religious, while i really want to write it my shame fear and anxiety get in the way. Safety is the concern, and not wanting to offend others. Just want to be sure before i put my time into it that this will be the appropriate place for it. I appreciate your time and response.


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#192000 - 11/20/07 03:11 PM Re: wanting to post story [Re: glad2beme]
MemoryVault Offline
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Registered: 03/01/07
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Loc: NJ
Hi glad2beme,

I think most of our stories have a complex tangle of issues in them. If sexual abuse is part of your history, it doesn't have to be the only issue--or even the main issue in your life. Your story will be welcome here if you want to share it and feel safe doing so. (Took me a while!)

One thing I like about the "Survivor Stories" board is that it's the only one where there are no replies -- it's clear that you post your story for YOU, not for other people's reactions. Writing it out can be terrifying and empowering when the time's right.

Good luck!

David



Edited by MemoryVault (11/20/07 03:32 PM)

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#192015 - 11/20/07 07:48 PM Re: wanting to post story [Re: MemoryVault]
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Hi glad2beme,

Yes, it can be a very challenging and intimidating, frightening even writing out your story. I also have more than one source of childhood trauma including a certain amount of physical and emotional abuse at home which probably left me vulnerable to the SA from others. Write it out and post it when you feel you are able. If you feel it may be triggering to some of the participants here, put a "Trigger Warning" at the top and they'll know not to read it if they are feeling low.

It's your story. It's what happened to you, and it can be very healing to write it out and tell someone the things that have been kept secret for so long.

I wish you well as you think about this, Friend.

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#192302 - 11/23/07 02:29 AM Re: wanting to post story [Re: WalkingSouth]
roadrunner Offline
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glad2beme,

Welcome to Male Survivor and I hope you will benefit from the many things going on here. it can all get to be pretty intimidating sometimes, so just take it easy and ease into things at a pace that leaves you feeling comfortable.

That especially goes for posting your survivor story. There's a special forum for those and there are no replies allowed, as David has already commented. But perhaps try writing your story out first and just let it sit for a few days - then decide if you want to post it. Just remember that this is YOUR information and that the aim is to help yourself; you don't owe anything to anyone else, but if the story is graphic please put a "trigger" warning on it.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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