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#192144 - 11/21/07 08:08 PM Thanksgiving for real
MemoryVault Offline

Registered: 03/01/07
Posts: 693
Loc: NJ
Quiet holiday this year with friends and nearby family, but these are the thanks I really want to say:

  • Thanks to everyone here who heard my first frightened tries to share my story, who put an arm around me with their words. You've helped me believe in myself a lot more and still give me the courage to peer into the shadows.
  • Thanks to the guys sharing their story here for the first time (or the second or the third). I hope you know how much you're honoring us with your trust. You've helped me remember the power of finding our voice.
  • Thanks to the men who've gotten hurt here, and made the decision to keep coming back and find their own level of trust. You've helped me stick around, too.
  • Thanks to the guys in my healing circle, and to Tom for getting it going! I've always come out with an amazing sense of peace: "They get it. They understand!" Different stories, but so much we've shared. Never posted how great I think you guys are.
  • Thanks to the mods for all their work, tough decisions, and support. The world needs more high-tech traffic-cop/mediator/detectives with such big hearts!!!
  • Thanks for the Internet doing what it does best -- bringing people together. I'd be talking to a journal without this place, and that was getting pretty lonely!
  • Thanks for the folks who've nudged me gently to go find a T. As Larry put it, "it's not a do-it-yourself project." Thanks in advance for keeping on nudging me!
  • Thanks for having different points of view, for disagreeing, for listening to each other. I didn't learn much about healthy conflict in my past.
  • And one for me--thanks to that brave kid who didn't get shattered, to that core of my being that remained solid and true--thanks to the teen who carried all that pain that wasn't his -- to the young man trying to teach himself how to live in the world--to the older man learning to forgive himself and keep learning.

Thanks, guys.


#192176 - 11/22/07 06:03 AM Re: Thanksgiving for real [Re: MemoryVault]
RICK57 Offline

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
David - some things in life are priceless - this site and the people here are more than priceless. I include everyone here in that.

Have a good holiday!

Best wishes ...Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

#192177 - 11/22/07 07:13 AM Re: Thanksgiving for real [Re: RICK57]
GateKPR4 Offline

Registered: 10/28/07
Posts: 955
Loc: North Carolina, USA
I'm still new here and reading your post gives me hope for a better future. I stumbled on to this site googling for a support group and it was nothing short of a miracle I ended up here. I needed to read what you had posted and especially remember "it's not a do-it-yourself project." Even working with a T this site has been a great addition to my toolbox.
Thank you and everyone here on MS
peace & happiness

I'm a normal person dealing with abnormal experiences.
The greatest discoveries we will find within ourselves.
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#192186 - 11/22/07 09:46 AM Re: Thanksgiving for real [Re: MemoryVault]
jach1 Offline
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Registered: 11/12/07
Posts: 8
Loc: Colorado
Sometimes being thankful is difficult. You put life into a great perspective. Of all your thank you's, I like the last one because I am thankful now for the same reason. At 66 years of age, I finally have come to a point of healing from a 4 year old abuse situation. I lived all my life with the resultant trauma, not knowing what was going on. Why the pain? Now I am figuring it out and living the recovery. I am not with my family today because of the strain on our relationship brought on by a series of illnesses for both of us and mainly by my inability to deal with life. I am finally getting a handle on things and have a long way to go. I will not live with the hidden pain, damaged self-concept, and relationship difficulties any longer. It is scary for me to face this. I have tried to make changes in how I feel about myself and how I relate to others, but have always fallen short. In comparison to when I was in high school, I have come a long way, but I have so far to go. I don't know where I am going for sure or if I will remain a married person. I do know that I am starting to live a more self satisfying life, knowing that I am a good person who does not need the constant approval of the outside world.
I am thankful today that I have finally figured out how to start on a path to recovery, in spite of the pain of being away from family for awhile.


#192212 - 11/22/07 02:21 PM Re: Thanksgiving for real [Re: jach1]
frost Offline

Registered: 03/15/07
Posts: 1377
Loc: Eh?
Thanks for posting David,

While it's not thanksgiving here in Canada... These are definitely things to be thankful for ! \:\)

Enjoy the holiday



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