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#189292 - 10/30/07 07:35 PM Re: To my inner 22-year-old [Re: tartugas]
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Registered: 03/01/07
Posts: 693
Loc: NJ
Wow, guys--

Thanks so much for the feedback.

The kid I was writing to was teaching himself Life 101. I guess I've passed some tests and am now studying Life 102. At least, I want to start thinking of it that way...it beats wandering around thinking I'm screwed up because of the things I still don't know.

David


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#189798 - 11/03/07 11:57 AM Re: To my inner 22-year-old [Re: MemoryVault]
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
David,

Originally Posted By: MemoryVault
it beats wandering around thinking I'm screwed up because of the things I still don't know.


This one made me smile. That is SOOOO common among survivors: "I didn't know X" > "I should have known X" > "What a fuck-up I am".

What you're doing is rewriting that false formula into the right one: "I didn't know X" > "Now I do" > Good for me - I'm learning."

That's one of the big differences between spinning our wheels in the past and "staying present".

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
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#189891 - 11/04/07 06:55 AM Re: To my inner 22-year-old [Re: roadrunner]
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Registered: 10/28/07
Posts: 955
Loc: North Carolina, USA
Thank you David, I cried from "what did you learn in all this time?" I 44yo and I have learned a lot but just starting to learn about my abuse. So many of you guys here express in words what I can only piece together in my mind. It has only been about my 3rd week and I haven't cried this much in years. You all understand and I'm not alone anymore. Thanks again
Rick

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#189913 - 11/04/07 10:34 AM Re: To my inner 22-year-old [Re: GateKPR4]
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Registered: 10/01/04
Posts: 422
Loc: Louisiana
wow, that is, exactly what Im going through......... I dont know what to say


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