Molly .............I am still going through the same thing. My husband and I have been married for 7 years now, 4 years ago I found out he was basicaly living a second life..of porn addiction, and strip clubs. I still feel like it has not been resolved in my mind to let it go, and blame it on his abuse. But my heart was broken, I feel as if I am a beating rug. I feel I get left with all the crap so to say. And after being beat down, I have to find the strengh to support him. I love him with all my heart, and that is why I continue to work through it. We just starting seeing a theripist 2 months ago, and I can't say enough how much it has helped. and more over this website,,,has been very helpful for me. Your life together I can only say will have it's up's and downs. My pain is still there, and I think of it all the time. but it is getting better. The more you understand what happend, the more changes you see in him. the better it will get, and the pain won't sting as bad. But I do recomend you personally going therepy, it's hard to unleash your frustration and hurt in a situation like this, but you have to do it and talk to someone! And if you can, get someone who specializes in this. Molly it's mostly a question "how far will you go in the name of love?" that is what I think about alot. take care, and you have a great group of nice people on here ready and willing to talk and help.