I spoke with my wife last night - a frank, open discussion about sexuality. What I liked and - sometimes - why I liked it. We tried to stay away from if it was related to the abuse or not - and just focus on what it was and why I liked it and if it was something we could or should work into our physical intimacy. I am pretty basic when it comes to physical intimacy with one peculiar exception for oral sex and ejaculate (which closely parallels the Masterbation, Ejaculation and Shame thread). Anyhow it was not nearly as scary as I thought it would be, she did not scream at me, call me a pervert, or anything else - it was a great talk and I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
The bottom line is what I was beating myself up about - being afraid to talk to her about - turned into a tender moment of openness and honesty. And something she encouraged me to share with her as a participant.
Edited by kellygtx (10/22/07 10:39 AM)
I bid you Peace.
The time is always NOW. Breath In. Breath Out. Move On.