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#188284 - 10/21/07 08:30 PM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a paedo [Re: Still]
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21. Because you were my only parent and you were supposed to PROTECT me, NOT use me for sex.


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#188418 - 10/23/07 12:08 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a paedo [Re: buzz_key]
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22. Because you were in a position of authority and you took advantage of that, to have your way with little boys. And ruin there lives.

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#188420 - 10/23/07 12:36 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a paedo [Re: Mike 999]
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23. Because you don't truly feel any remorse

24. Because your deeply twisted mind would simply turn it into justification for your evil deeds- "See? he turned out OK..."

25. Because it makes about as much sense to forgive a crippling disease as it would to forgive you

26. Because you might want me to. You get nothing more from me.

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#188421 - 10/23/07 12:42 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a pa [Re: dgoods]
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Originally Posted By: dgoods


26. Because you might want me to. You get nothing more from me.


But, if we are still acting 'because' of them, one way or other, they still are having control. The perpetrator should not really have impact on whether you forgive or not, or anything else in our lives.

Andrei


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#188442 - 10/23/07 06:29 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a pa [Re: ak]
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Originally Posted By: ak


But, if we are still acting 'because' of them, one way or other, they still are having control. The perpetrator should not really have impact on whether you forgive or not, or anything else in our lives.


Beautifully said, Andrei.

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#188468 - 10/23/07 02:05 PM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a pa [Re: BJK]
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You're right, of course- I'm just emotionally not there yet; i'm still trying to let myself be angry at my perp instead of myself. There's still plenty my head knows is true, but that my heart hasn't accepted yet. Bear w/ me good people, i'll get there someday...

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#188485 - 10/23/07 05:20 PM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a paedo [Re: dgoods]
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Originally Posted By: dgoods
25. Because it makes about as much sense to forgive a crippling disease as it would to forgive you


WOW!!!!!!! THAT positions it all perfectly!!!!!!!!!!

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#188561 - 10/24/07 04:09 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a pa [Re: ak]
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Originally Posted By: ak
[quote=dgoods]

26.

But, if we are still acting 'because' of them, one way or other, they still are having control. The perpetrator should not really have impact on whether you forgive or not, or anything else in our lives.

Andrei


You Hit the nail right on the head. It is amazing how much this was showing thru the first time I told the story about one of my perps to my T It was really amazing. I just wish I could turn the tear ducts back on because I know its ok to cry it just does not happen for me yet.

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#188597 - 10/24/07 09:21 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a pa [Re: BJK]
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27 You made me associate my 'male member' with a bannana and Lollipops
28 You took advantage of your religious position and poisoned a representation of God's power on earth
29 You raped me and took away my virginity in childhood
30 You beat me senseless probably drugged me, gang rapped me and then just left. and Now I don't even know who you are.
31 Because you made me like it
32 Becuase I haven't found out or remembered everything you did to me yet, and it's impossible to forgive someone for something you don't know they did to you!

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#188605 - 10/24/07 10:34 AM Re: Forgiveness - 1001 reasons not to forgive a pa [Re: Power_water]
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33 You told me what I did was good

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