TRIGGER

The forgiveness thread appears from time to time, so I just thought I'd seek out a balance of opinions.

Some people think that we cannot achieve an acceptable life balance if we do not forgive the paedophile/s that groomed/abused/attacked us.

If you cannot forgive, please add your reasons here. I'll start you off - please try and keep continuity of numbers:

1/ You stole my childhood.
2/ You groomed and abused me during my formative years - how am I meant to know who I really am.
3/ You implied that everyone did what we were doing, but nobody ever talked about it.
4/ You pretended that you were like my Grandparents, but they never hurt me, you lied.
5/ You destroyed my ability to trust.
6/ You called me your shark, because it implied that I was something fantastic (I am, but you would never know).

I could sit here all night, but that would imply that I am bitter and twisted (at work, its cynical, but I call it realistic).

Best wishes ...Rik

Rik,

Can I request that you put a trigger warning on this thread?

Those six items you listed....for me, they are the things I have to work through in order to forgive my mother. There is a lot of pain involved with that, and seeing it spelled out on paper is quite a jolt.

Thanks for the post, though.

Bryan

Bryan - sorry. I've added the trigger warning! I'm just used to thinking that anything can trigger here.

Best wishes ..Rik

7. You betrayed my friendship

8. Because they hurt the most innocent - Children

9. because i dont even remember your face.

10. because I now see I meant nothing to you.
11. because your orgasm was more important to you than my life and future.
12. because you knew I was defenseless and innocent.
13. because it wasn't asking too much to want a big brother.
14. because you mean nothing to me now.

Because you have destroyed my trust in people....

you have chosen that 10 seconds of physical pleasure pretty much balances out the lifetime of emotional and mental hangups you have given me!

You not only destroyed me...but my family and those I love as well!

For me there is no reason not to forgive, but that doesn't mean that I want anything for you.

18. Because its MY bloody CHOICE to forgive or not forgive them.
19. Because older boys are supposed to care about younger ones, not use them like meat.
20. Because YOU NEVER ASKED to be forgiven!!!!!!!!!