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#187592 - 10/17/07 08:37 AM this is very very long but good informaton i think
nicky Offline
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Registered: 08/24/07
Posts: 261
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i like the rain cause no one knows im crying

a strong man is one who is able to control himself when he is angry
what is your definiton of control?

i lay awake another hour
just like the one before
the shadows play a game with my head
i can't take this anymore

http://youtube.com/watch?v=x4EOw8wPBN8




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#187601 - 10/17/07 09:34 AM Re: this is very very long but good informaton i think [Re: nicky]
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Nicky -

My friend (I like the sound of that) Thank You for the post. While it was long, it was very informative.

Blessed Be -

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Kelly

The time is always NOW. Breath In. Breath Out. Move On.

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#187607 - 10/17/07 10:19 AM Re: this is very very long but good informaton i t [Re: nicky]
indygal Offline
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Registered: 06/22/06
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Originally Posted By: nicky



the link was empty when i tried it - can you check and see if it's still there and if so cut and paste it please?

thanks!
indy

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#187612 - 10/17/07 10:46 AM Re: this is very very long but good informaton i t [Re: indygal]
nicky Offline
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http://members.aol.com/smartnews/howchildhoodsa.htm

you have to like scroll over i think

and kelly me to

_________________________
i like the rain cause no one knows im crying

a strong man is one who is able to control himself when he is angry
what is your definiton of control?

i lay awake another hour
just like the one before
the shadows play a game with my head
i can't take this anymore

http://youtube.com/watch?v=x4EOw8wPBN8




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#187646 - 10/17/07 03:09 PM Re: this is very very long but good informaton i t [Re: nicky]
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Registered: 08/13/07
Posts: 118
Loc: US
I just wanted to mention this excerpt from the article. As a partner, witnessing the use of the coping mechanisms can be so frustrating- until you realize why a survivor has been using them. It was very meaningul to hear again.

"Freyd (1996) in her book on betrayal trauma, writes about the reasons why a child would forget child abuse. The reasons she gives are avoidance of pain, terror or overwhelming information. Repression lessens the pain of the abusive incident. Defense mechanisms help survivors keep secrets from themselves (Freyd, 1996)"

I haven't finished the article yet, but just wanted to mention that. I think finally KNOWING that is one of the most important things a partner can do to help.

V.

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I was silent as a child, and silenced as a young woman; I am taking my lumps and bumps for being a big mouth, now, but usually from those whose opinion I don't respect. - Sandra Cisneros

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