My heart goes out to you...i too am in this and i know everyone is different...Your H might respond differently than my bf, depends on where he is in his recovery. My BF is very new and in depression (hopefully on meds) we haven't seen each other or actually had any kind of conversation in 4 weeks. Last Friday i called him cause i just missed him and he went ballistic, screaming lies to hurt me as much as he is hurting. In his present state of mind he is not rationally thinking of our relationship and i guess this is where i learned just how much CSA can screw with a person. My BF is a fabulous man, but is in a great amount of pain with no end in site.
should you email him, call, etc.???only you or he can answer that.
and it would probably be best to ask him what he'd feel comfortable with. if you are committed to your relationship and to be there for him, telling him that and then giving him the space to make choices on it would be the way to go. If he is in a different place or unable to respond, he could just need more time.
Only you can really decide how to proceed.
i wish you much courage on this journey.
"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results."
I cannot take your steps, but I can walk beside you, if you'll let me.