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#186926 - 10/13/07 02:07 PM The Kite Runner
Marinan Offline
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Does anyone plan to see this? I think that I"m afraid to see this movie. It has CSA scene in it.

Is it a good thing they are putting this movie out, so people know that sort of thing happens.


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#186928 - 10/13/07 02:09 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: Marinan]
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the book wasnt about csa. it had one scene in it. im not sure how they are going to handle it in the film, but im planning on seeing it. the book was great. the story was really incredible.


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#186930 - 10/13/07 02:20 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: Jarrad]
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according to an article i saw a short time ago, the CSA scene is going to be pretty much removed from the movie due to demands made by the young actor's family. I'm sure it will still be implied, however.

I think for me, I won't be looking to see this movie in a theatre setting, rather, I'd prefer to watch in the comfort of my own home should some parts be particularly triggering or uncomfortable.

I have heard the book is phenomenal and would love to read it. I like movies that have been made into books as it gives me a chance to read the novel afterwards and get the rest of the story \:\)

Anyways, if anyone is a bit leery of watching it I'd recommend proceeding with caution. Like Jarrad said the entire storyline isn't about CSA, its just one particular scene.

All the best,
Brian

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#187021 - 10/14/07 09:52 AM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: frost]
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I think the whole book is an allegory for CSA and coming to terms with it.

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#187071 - 10/14/07 02:16 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: rcm]
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I really want to see this film but i think i will be waiting for it to come to DVD.

I heard that the actors family wanted to change the scene for their families safety. They were afraid afganastanies would think it was real and that would place there son in danger.

The article i read though made it sound like they were ok with the scene if they would be granted enough money to move out of afganastan. which i think given the amount of money this film is sure to make, and the dangers of living in afganastan is a very fair thing to ask for.


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#187079 - 10/14/07 02:43 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: theatrekid]
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rcm, thats interesting. i thought the book was about a man's jounrey of self dicovery and the brutal truth that we are all human. i thought it had very little to do with csa. he himself, was never touched. it was his friend.


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#187091 - 10/14/07 04:42 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: Jarrad]
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True, but I had just read that two other people got raped in the book as well, including the one who held down Hassan's legs.



Edited by Marinan (10/14/07 08:56 PM)

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#187093 - 10/14/07 04:44 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: Marinan]
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Marinan -- Trigger warning please.


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#187094 - 10/14/07 05:18 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: testingWaters]
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RCM i remember reading your idea about what the book was about when you first posted it
[url]http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...true#Post179976[/url]

its interesting though how different people can read somthing and get completely different ideas from it.

,Chris


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#187162 - 10/14/07 08:55 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: theatrekid]
Marinan Offline
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Sorry testing. That was, uncouth of me.


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#187166 - 10/14/07 09:05 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: Jarrad]
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jarrad i posted my thoughts some time ago
i think his friend is himself, a dissociation to deal with a traumatic experience
i think hassan's son is his inner child who has been in trauma for many years
i think the very last paragraph of the book describes how he initiates his path to healing
i think when hassan was raped it was a dissociation so he was looking as if it was someone else but it was him
just my thoughts

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#187178 - 10/14/07 09:41 PM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: rcm]
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I have been reading this Kite Runner thread. Here is a link to a post I made back in June of 2006.
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...=true#Post75566

This book did more for my recovery as any other and I've read a lot of books on CSA. For me it was about sexual abuse.

Dale


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#187220 - 10/15/07 02:00 AM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: Elad 12]
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i read this book summer of 2006 and was deeply moved...so many issues to be discovered...for csa survivors...for people who need to be made aware of other cultures and the fact that we are all living on the same earth, yet we experience such profoundly different political situations that create obstacles in our lives...and, for us all to better understand the Afghanistan people.

it is a beautiful book...profoundly sad...but moving and quite an inspirational read. and, yes...some really difficult triggers for us survivors.

russ

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#187236 - 10/15/07 07:21 AM Re: The Kite Runner [Re: trusty]
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By the way the paperback edition is out of print but they just printed a brand new "premium" edition, with pictures. It's just out, I ordered from amazon and received it but it's been sitting in the mail room for a week now.

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