ok, so i had my "initial intake" with a new T last night. we had interviewed on the phone and determined that last night was a good time to meet.

the meeting went really well (surprise) and he asked if i wanted to go ahead and start - have my first full session. YES! finally someone i connected with that had experience dealing with male survivors of CSA, dealing with my extreme anger/rage issues, etc etc etc. AND they have a sliding scale so i can afford it without insurance!

so as we're wrapping up (90 minutes later), he tells me (by the way) he's going to be out of town next week, so we can't meet for two weeks. well, the two week date puts it on my birthday - now that in itself isn't anything major except my family would really like to spend the full evening with me. (imagine that)

so two and a half weeks from now i'll get to continue.

and the more i sit here, the angrier i get. he knew what his schedule was like, shouldn't he have said he wouldn't be available for two weeks BEFORE WE FLIPPIN STARTED THIS?????

or am i overly sensitive? maybe i shouldn't feel rejected, used, and tossed aside again....

right now i dunno if i should go back in two and a half weeks or just give up on this whole stupid, useless idea of therapy.

m

Use this time to take down ideas (presumably taken from this forum) and present the ideas to explore in further detail when he gets back.

I don't think you should give up on the whole therapy thing.but I do think the therapist should have mentioned leaving for 2 weeks.I don't think he might anything by it though,he was probably just forgetful.

Hauser said exactly what I was thinking. Use the time to put some framework to what you want to work on.

hey, mark,
maybe this extra wait is a test for you...i'd say i believe you can do the wait...you have a good impression with regards to finally connecting to someone...so hang in there and give it a try...

just my two cents...

and...happy b-day...coming up.

russ

so .... thus far we have 4 votes for "overly sensitive" ...

I wouldn't say "overly sensitive", since I think I would have thought the same thing you did when he said he'd be gone. But things being what they are, you can try to make the best of it and use the added time to the advantage of your healing by thinking about what you'd like to cover. I'm sure your T would probably appreciate that as well, since giving him a framework helps him to know where you're both heading.

dunno
everyone says "stick around" when i was gonna jump ship

sounds to me like i am overly something or other

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uh ....

no