Just wondering, is it possible that a survivor could be married for 15 yrs or so and never realize he's got a problem w/ intimacy, communication, etc., that is not normal, but instead could genuinely believe it is his wife who has the shortcomings?
I would say so. I didn't even realize I was a survivor till fairly recently, so there was no way I had a problem.
In other words, does a survivor always feel different and know something is not right w/ himself,
feel different? yeah - i did
know something is not right - yeah, i did
know WHAT was wrong? no way
even if you have an idea - it's hard to admit it to yourself, much less anyone else.
at least, in my experience.