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#183828 - 10/01/07 07:14 PM My problems are worse than yours, so shut up.
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Have you ever, deep down, really wanted to just scream that at somebody? Like, if you overhear someone sniveling about how his/her life is "ruined" because of something really inane, like missing a concert or date because of work, or something stupid like this? I mean, you get real angry over it?

Is this jealousy, or callousness? Maybe I'm just on a selfish kick lately.

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#183830 - 10/01/07 07:23 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: melliferal]
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i feel like that alot. i think its normal. i find myself getting really selfish lately but i don't think thats bad, some times we need to put our selves first.

i think its important to remember though that we dont know peoples whole story... so when they say their life is ruined because they are missing a date there might be something deeper to what they are saying.... maybe they are saying they feel like they are all alone and no one cares about them.

then again maybe they are just a drama queen who knows \:\)





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#183831 - 10/01/07 07:29 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: theatrekid]
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Geez...I'm like the opposite.

You know, my mom just disowned me, my niece is in the hospital, I have a migraine from the stress, and I just threw up my lunch. Yeah, I'll stay late so you can make your massage appointment.

Bryan

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#183832 - 10/01/07 07:32 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: BJK]
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Bryan i used to be like that... but these last few months i have really changed almost to the complete opposite of that.

once i learned i could say no to people its like i havnt stoped


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#183834 - 10/01/07 07:42 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: theatrekid]
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I remember being 8 years old....during the peak of my troubles with "them" and thinking that I would dearly LOVE to have the problems of the other kids in the neighborhood. Nothing has changed in that regard.

But now I'm old enough to have seen people with worse problems than mine.

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#183840 - 10/01/07 07:57 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: Still]
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I have seen people with worse problems than me; a lot of them are right here. But as I said, sometimes I get these moments where people complain about the smallest things just makes me furious.

I don't show it, of course - nobody can tell when I'm angry. But I know I'm angry.

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#183845 - 10/01/07 08:13 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: melliferal]
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Melliferal,

Some people just don't see how fortunate they are. The feeling you describe isn't something I experience so much anymore, but there were times I felt like I must have dropped onto the earth from another planet - all the inane bickering and squabbling just made no sense to me.

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Larry

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#183858 - 10/01/07 08:49 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: roadrunner]
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omg i totally feel like that.


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#183861 - 10/01/07 08:59 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: melliferal]
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Originally Posted By: melliferal
I don't show it, of course - nobody can tell when I'm angry. But I know I'm angry.

Wow. I have no idea what that is like. Not that people can tell what I'm thinking - except when I'm angry...

But when I'm angry - the universe knows.

M


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#183862 - 10/01/07 09:01 PM Re: My problems are worse than yours, so shut up. [Re: MarkK]
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Be glad you can express it!

Internalization can hurt in lots of ways. \:\(

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