IF a survivor can learn to have sex w/ real intimacy and love, as opposed to plain "dirty" sex, I wonder if he would then prefer the sex/intimacy/love, because he is missing that now. Maybe sex is "just sex" until you learn to put sex and love together, then it changes everything??
Esp. if they figured out *why* they like the "dirty" secretive sex....i.e. it was dirty and secretive in their abuse...and once they make that connection, if they ever do, it seems like they would not want it as much anymore. Just my own thoughts as the spouse of a survivor...???
Interesting thread and, no, this is not a delicate tea party but I hope we can still discuss this.
It were better for him that a millstone were hanged around his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.