Don't know that I would agree entirely with the statement that it's in your genes, etc. For instance, referring back to something Kathryn posted some time ago, some people are highly eroticised by shoes or rubber suits or other strange things. I highly doubt such attractions are genetic, but I do believe that genetics and/or chemical influences among other things probably play a substantial role in what turns us on.
Overtime, by continued thought, viewing, even experimentation with a given sexual activity or situation a person can increase that particular erotic trigger over and above others to the point where it is sexually stimulating when it previously had not been a particular turn on.
One answer to your question could be to consult with a reputable sex therapist regarding this issue.
Edited by walkingsouth (09/22/07 03:09 PM)
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