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#180064 - 09/13/07 02:36 PM Which Rule do you live by?
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Be honest with yourself.

Golden Rule: Treat others as you want them to treat you. (Treat everyone with kindness, regardless of how they act)

Silver Rule: Don't treat others the way you don't want them to treat you. ("Turn the other cheek")

Bronze Rule: Treat others the way they treat you. (Treat kindness with kindness, evil with justice)

Iron Rule: Treat others before they treat you. (Do what you will, without consideration of the outcome)

Tin Rule: Treat your superiors and equals with respect, and your inferiors with contempt. (Everyone has his station in life; act accordingly)

Which rule governs your behavior most of the time? I confess I deal mostly in the Tin Rule, where superiors equals family and friends.

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#180066 - 09/13/07 02:37 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: melliferal]
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Dirt Rule: Remember, you are dirt - all others are to be treated far better than you.


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#180071 - 09/13/07 02:49 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: MarkK]
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if i'm being honest...i think i live mostly by the bronze rule.
but shouldn't it say "evil with injustice"?


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#180076 - 09/13/07 02:50 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: buzz_key]
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Depends on one's personal definition of "justice", I suppose.

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#180080 - 09/13/07 02:54 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: melliferal]
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GOOD point.


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#180081 - 09/13/07 02:55 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: buzz_key]
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Melliferal -

Man thats a hard one. I think I have lived mostly by the Hippocratic Oath when it comes to others "First, do not harm" and a variation on that rule for myself - "You can only do harm".

So I think I am just plain screwed!

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#180084 - 09/13/07 03:03 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: kellygtx]
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I get the feeling many of us can lay claim to several of those metals, maybe even without realizing it.

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#180091 - 09/13/07 03:24 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: melliferal]
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Bronze Rule for me. -Darren

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#180096 - 09/13/07 03:48 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: kellygtx]
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Originally Posted By: kellygtx
Melliferal -
I think I have lived mostly by the Hippocratic Oath when it comes to others "First, do not harm".


I think we might be able to make that a "polished" metal.

For me it would be Polished Bronze, I suppose.


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#180109 - 09/13/07 05:02 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: Dewey2k]
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I would say the silver rule as it is the closest thing to civility, which is the way I treat people.

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#180123 - 09/13/07 06:53 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: jacobtk]
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I think with the golden rule, I act with the silver rule.

When my anger takes over, there are no rules. My anger isn't who I am, but it is my job to control it.

Bryan

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#180138 - 09/13/07 07:52 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: BJK]
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I think I am like Bryan. I think as 'Golden Rule', and live more by silver one. I do not mistreat people. But I will generally choose to avoid people who have done me harm in some way, instead of to keep treating them good, I just do not treat them at all.

Andrei


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#180153 - 09/13/07 09:14 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: ak]
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Same as Andrei and Bryan.


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#180167 - 09/13/07 10:38 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: Nyjah]
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im with mark ,very honest answer dude ,and dirt definatly belongs on the list.

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#180222 - 09/14/07 09:02 AM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: jacobtk]
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Strive for gold...maybe gold plated silver?


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#180225 - 09/14/07 09:05 AM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: shadowkid]
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Originally Posted By: shadowkid
im with mark ,very honest answer dude ,and dirt definatly belongs on the list.

unfortunately, my friend - dirt is not a metal and can't be shined up to look all pretty ...

i appreciate your candor though


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#180367 - 09/14/07 09:48 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: MarkK]
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the most beautifull things grow up from the dirt mark,without it we couldnt have roses could we?

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#180371 - 09/14/07 10:06 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: shadowkid]
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with thorns
or thistles
or nettles

.......


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#180376 - 09/14/07 10:59 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: MarkK]
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just cause its beuatifull dont mean it has to be vunerable

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#180377 - 09/14/07 11:02 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: shadowkid]
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wow...that is powerful adam


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#180379 - 09/14/07 11:17 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: shadowkid]
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Originally Posted By: shadowkid
just cause its beuatifull dont mean it has to be vunerable


Where do you come up with this stuff, dude?

This is one of the coolest things I've ever read.

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What the world needs now
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Like la la la la la la la la la.
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Having a friend who will keep a secret for you is worthless compared to a friend who won't keep a secret from you.

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#180615 - 09/16/07 03:53 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: BJK]
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no - more likely it's deadly

beauty conceals

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#180622 - 09/16/07 04:46 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: MarkK]
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and truth reveals

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#180664 - 09/16/07 07:40 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: shadowkid]
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including the ugliness within


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#180671 - 09/16/07 08:20 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: MarkK]
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I would have to say I am more about the K rule Karma (new age). Though I believe I want to help it on the bad things come to bad people part. My wife says that I have no patience.


Take care.

Brokensoul


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#180691 - 09/16/07 10:29 PM Re: Which Rule do you live by? [Re: brokensoul]
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under it all beats the heart of a survivor

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