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#179871 - 09/12/07 01:37 PM Healing Circle for Family and Friends
Muldoon Offline
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Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
I have been asked about the possiblity of starting a Healing Circle for those that are Family and Friend. We now have 4 Healing Circles going that are helping the guys deal with their issues in a whole new way.

The Healing Circles are a very simple concept. It is real time peer support over the internet. We meet the same time each week in a private chat room. Below is some info that is for the guys but it will give you some info on what this is all about. Some of you may have partner who are in a circle so you have a good idea about how it works and can share with the others.

I will help get it started but it would be your circle and you will need one or two persons to be the facilitator for the meetings. I think that it will be a great tool for understand our issues and support of each other.

If you would like to be part of this Healing Circle please reply here or PM me if you have any ????. Thanks, looking forward to helping you get your own Healing Circle going.

Tom



What are Healing Circles

A Healing Circle is a peer support group over the internet. Peer support groups can be a very powerful tool in the healing process. None of us is a trained therapist. We are simply survivors coming together to share our feelings. Therefore, we all take responsibility for making the meetings as safe and supportive as possible.


How it Works

We use the chat room format with a few changes. One of the members of the group is the facilitator who directs the meeting. Only one person is speaking at a time. It's a therapy type chat setup where each member can ask for time to discuss their issues and receive feedback from others. Much care is taken to avoid people being triggered. In order to have a open and truthful discussion of the issues, once formed groups will be closed meetings. The circles are a chance to get a little closer to the guys who meet with you every week ,it's comfortable, after a few meetings you get to know what to expect and what each persons needs and strengths are .
Many of us didn't really know what to expect from a group setting so possibly some guys are hesitant to join. Please read more so you understand what the Healing Circles are about



Why it Works

The Healing Circles are valuable resource for everyone. We all get an opportunity in the circle that many of us don't get in the outside world - the chance to share something that is pressing against our hearts, and to get some realtime feedback from people who at some level or another understand and feel that pain or concern. In turn, we all get an opportunity to help someone who is hurting and needs our support. That to me is what helps make this community a good one.



If you want to join us Please reply in this post or send Muldoon a PM



Below is some more information


Our Mission Statement.

We understand that the road is easier when not traveled alone and therefore the purpose of this circle is to provide a place of safety for men who as children or in adulthood have been victims of sexual abuse and or assault. Here, one can express his thoughts, fears, joys, or anger and know that his voice will be heard by others who will understand and validate him as a human being. Here, the focus is not so much on the past as it is on healing. Naturally the past and its abuse will come up from time to time but the purpose is to find a way through it to the healing that awaits on the other side. We will look at our journeys to see where we are on the road to healing and discuss things that work for us as well as things that do not. We will learn from the mistakes and successes of others and thus promote healing in our own lives.


Choice

If there is one thing that I have learned in my life it is that I have a problem. It is not my fault but the fact still remains; I have a problem. I did not choose to be sexually abused. The pedophile chose to abuse me. He did not ask my permission; he took what he wanted, leaving me wounded, confused and in pain.

So now it is my turn to choose. I can choose to stay here where I am and feel sorry for myself and try to convince or manipulate others to feel sorry for me too, after all, donít I deserve it. Or I can choose to seek heeling for my wounds. I can reclaim that which was taken from me. I can seek answers and relief from my pain.

Itís not my fault, but it is my problem. What I do about it is my choice. If like me, you are tired of being a victim, I encourage you to make a choice to heal, I invite you to join us here in The Healing Circle. Together we will travel a road that is not familiar to any of us but common to us all. We will support each other and lend a helping hand along the way.

This is not an easy road we travel and is not for the faint of heart but if you are serious about becoming a victor instead of a victim, by all means, join us. We are not super human nor do we claim to have all the answers. We are just a bunch of ordinary guys who want to use all the tools available to become the men we were created to be



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#179873 - 09/12/07 01:55 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: Muldoon]
healingpartner Offline
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Registered: 04/04/07
Posts: 407
I would love to join if I may.

Lorie


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#179883 - 09/12/07 03:17 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: healingpartner]
Wife Supporter Offline
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Registered: 07/26/07
Posts: 23
Loc: UK
me too, please


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#179898 - 09/12/07 05:00 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: Wife Supporter]
selene Offline
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Registered: 11/10/06
Posts: 221
Loc: midwest
... same here ... also, i would like to volunteer to facilitate and hope someone else will volunteer for that as well ...

selene

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#179901 - 09/12/07 05:25 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: selene]
Muldoon Offline
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Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
Selene

Thanks for volunteering to be the facilitor. It does make the job easier if there is a team of leaders, than you can take turns. Also thanks for asking me to get this started.

Once we see how many people want to be part of it than you should see what Day and time works best for you. The meetings run 2 hours long. Also you will have people from all over in different time zones, it can be hard to find a good time for all.

Tom

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#179903 - 09/12/07 05:38 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: Muldoon]
beccy Offline
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Registered: 05/28/06
Posts: 449
Loc: england
I'd like to join definately. Great idea.



Beccy


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#179907 - 09/12/07 06:19 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: beccy]
violet Offline
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Registered: 08/13/07
Posts: 118
Loc: US
I would like to be part of the group as well.

V.

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#179916 - 09/12/07 07:08 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: violet]
sabata Offline
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Registered: 08/08/06
Posts: 1948
cool------------one big happy family


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#179933 - 09/12/07 08:00 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: sabata]
selene Offline
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Registered: 11/10/06
Posts: 221
Loc: midwest
exactly steve \:\)

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#179946 - 09/12/07 09:53 PM Re: Healing Circle for Family and Friends [Re: selene]
savemyfam Offline
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Registered: 07/17/07
Posts: 144
Loc: Chicago
While I would love to join, I feel that I'm in a totally different spot than everyone else. My husband and I are seperated for one and he is not only not working on recovering, he is still in complete denial - about many things.

I find it hard at times to relate to all of you wonderful women - I think I'm better at this point putting my 2 cents in to everyone else's struggles than relating to dealing with a partner that is working on his issues.

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