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#17833 - 05/10/03 04:22 PM Speaking of Not Clamming Up...
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
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If you have suffered from sexual abuse, one of the results in your life is that you have been shut up. Your voice has been crushed. Fear has made you inarticulate. Perhaps the denial or deafness of others has silenced you. You may be silenced by the threat of rejection, which you are certain will come if you tell the truth. You have known voices that lie, distort, and deceive. In an attempt to survive, you, too, have learned to lie, distort, and deceive. You pretend you are all right when you are dying inside. You say it was no big deal when you are being ripped apart. you distort the facts to make it seem not so bad. You say, "At least I wasn't killed," when, in fact, you feel dead.

Let me encourage you to speak, to give voice to the truth of your life. It is indeed a very difficult thing to do. You will, however, find freedom there...Lies are exposed when truth is spoken. Darkness is banished when light is allowed to shine. Telling your story is not an exercise in futility. It is a means to an end.

(from "On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse" by Diane
Mandt Langberg, Ph.D.; pp 36,37.)

Victor

_________________________
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

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#17834 - 05/14/03 07:03 PM Re: Speaking of Not Clamming Up...
Wuamei Offline
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Your story is your story. Your truth is your truth

It is worth speaking. It is worth hearing.

We've all heard & believed enuf lies & liars.

You are worthy to speak. You are worth hearing.

Feel free to share your story & yourself in your time & your way for your own sake & the support of all true survivor wolves here!

The truth shall make us free!

Victor

Victor

_________________________
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

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#17835 - 05/14/03 10:19 PM Re: Speaking of Not Clamming Up...
chuck Offline
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Registered: 04/30/03
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Loc: mid atlantic
Victor,
Thanks for your post, because my T tells me I must keep reading and telling my story. Yes, I have been told to keep quiet but that was by mother when I was 6 years old and I had witnessed my brother being abused by my father at night. She said we are not going to discuss what happened. From then I knew not to say a word and when I was I abused by my father, I zoned out and pretended I was not there. Only know 40 some years later have I started to remember and talk about these horrible experiences that I was not allowed not even to remember or talk about. It does feel better to post these feelings, but it is difficult. That's all for now.
Chuck


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#17836 - 05/15/03 10:15 PM Re: Speaking of Not Clamming Up...
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Chuck,

That's what my T tells me. The noise of evil thrives on silence, and the more we break the silence the more we break the power of the evils done to us.

My friend it took me about 35 years to start remembering & start breaking the silence. I'm glad you're breaking the silence & telling your truth.

Take care Chuck.

Victor

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"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

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