If you have suffered from sexual abuse, one of the results in your life is that you have been shut up. Your voice has been crushed. Fear has made you inarticulate. Perhaps the denial or deafness of others has silenced you. You may be silenced by the threat of rejection, which you are certain will come if you tell the truth. You have known voices that lie, distort, and deceive. In an attempt to survive, you, too, have learned to lie, distort, and deceive. You pretend you are all right when you are dying inside. You say it was no big deal when you are being ripped apart. you distort the facts to make it seem not so bad. You say, "At least I wasn't killed," when, in fact, you feel dead.
Let me encourage you to speak, to give voice to the truth of your life. It is indeed a very difficult thing to do. You will, however, find freedom there...Lies are exposed when truth is spoken. Darkness is banished when light is allowed to shine. Telling your story is not an exercise in futility. It is a means to an end.
(from "On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse" by Diane
Mandt Langberg, Ph.D.; pp 36,37.)
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."