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#17191 - 04/29/06 12:41 AM Used in porn
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****Mild triggers****


As some of you already know, as part of my abuse my perp photographed me. He also had an extensive collection of child porn (some pictures were of kids I know), which he used while "seducing" me prior to the assault. As a result, my feelings & trauma around my abuse are complicated by the thoughts that my perp probably traded my pictures to other perps and that there are probably child porn pictures of me out there.

Has anyone else been photographed or used in porn? If so would you be open to talking about it? I really need to make some peace with this because the thought of these pictures existing really scares me.

I guess the worst part of being photographed is the violation. Not only did my perp beat me up and rape me, but he also "captured the moment" so his buddies and other perps can continue to exploit me. Also, I wonder from time to time if these pictures of me were used to lure and seduce other kids. I know that there is nothing I can do to prevent this from happening, and that there is no way I can be hurt today from pedos using these photos, but it still makes me feel awful that my picture might have been used to hurt more kids.

Any thoughts?

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#17192 - 04/29/06 01:13 AM Re: Used in porn
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I am sorry you was. I was not, but I know of someone who was. I can ask of them if they will speak with you of it. You can message to me.

andrei


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#17193 - 04/29/06 03:15 AM Re: Used in porn
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nobs ,my perp was into video and pictures ,dont know if i can help you but i'm open to talking about it . also the police have copies of some of it and i been told they keep it ,they dont destroy it .hell who knows who could see this stuff .i know some of my stuff was sold and my perp sent me a copy of a video . adam

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#17194 - 04/29/06 05:07 AM Re: Used in porn
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I did not have pictures taken of me but I do know of about the violation you speak of. I was in Ireland visiting an old friend of the family and the friend groped me and said "you do not mind" and "your father is right you are very patient". I was to shock to respond verbally but my body ached for days.


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#17196 - 04/29/06 08:23 PM Re: Used in porn
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I was used to produce child pornography as well. I can relate to the disgust of knowing what people are doing with the images. I was spared the humiliation of having the movies depict any kind of "rape" as such - but in some ways, this is actually a downside, especially for any kids who might be groomed using them. That may not make sense right away, but I invite you to read my story , as it will clear things up. You'll have to forgive some mild use of language in that post - it was my first in this forum and writing it was something of an emotional tilt-a-whirl ride.

I've been dealing with this for awhile. There's not much support for precisely this issue out there; if you want to talk, I am more than willing to.

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#17197 - 04/29/06 09:23 PM Re: Used in porn
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The issue of pictures or videos is always on my mind.
I knew no pictures were ever taken, but my mind questions whether this is really true.

I cannot even think what a guy goes through who knows for sure, that he has been distributed on the net, but rest assured no perp will ever know it was you if they met you.

There really is nothing anyone can do about the spread of porn through such a vast gateway.
It is far beyond impossible to track perps down.

Dont leave it to governments, leave it to the guys who work on software that can track porn through the matrix of the internet.

There is nothing to stop the cops embedding data inside existing porn to trap perps, they cannot see it, but it is embedded in the picture.

Maybe it would start a java application on the perps computer to track everywhere he goes on the net, and who he knows.

Yeah, I know it can be done, just waitin for them to do it,

ste

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#17198 - 04/30/06 06:48 AM Re: Used in porn
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Do you think they would say if they did?

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#17199 - 04/30/06 06:14 PM Re: Used in porn
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Nobby,

You said something that got me thinking and I thought it might be relevant here since so many guys are victims of perv shutterbugs:

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there is no way I can be hurt today from pedos using these photos
I understand what you mean bro, but isn't that a rational response? In emotional terms the question would be how it FEELS to know that pervs using pictures of child abuse to get off may well have some showing you. In a way, isn't that a terrible repetition of the abuse, one that the survivor can never stop?

I just suggest this as a way of understanding how terrible susvivors (rightly) feel when they know there are pictures of them "out there".

Much love,
Larry

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#17200 - 04/30/06 06:22 PM Re: Used in porn
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one of my fears about this stuff is that a perp could use pictures and videos of me to groom another kid ,also what could be the result of some would be perp watching this stuff ,it could be the thing that makes him molest for the first time .this stuff could be used to incite the desire of thousands of perps. i dont care what effect knowing it is out there has on me but what about if somebody else got hurt because of this stuff. shadow

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#17201 - 04/30/06 06:33 PM Re: Used in porn
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This isn't my favorite topic to discuss but agree with most the stuff others have said. I get physically ill when I think about what perverts are doing with my pictures.

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rest assured no perp will ever know it was you if they met you.
They could recognise me from pictures taken 4 years ago.


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