It's often like that, my friend. Before we can begin to make any progress there's a stage where it seems that all we're learning is how terribly we have been hurt. There seems to be no progress at all, just pain. But this process of recognition and acknowledgment of the truth is progress in itself. Things do get better, but they get better on the basis of us accepting the way things really are.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)