Thank you for the kind words. It's very nice to have one's feelings and opinions validated by someone else. You've made my day.
The key to finding a healthy and fulfilling relationship, I think, is to be ready to accept it when it happens. That requires that we, as CSA survivors, have done at least some of our homework in healing. Realizing our past mistakes and determining not to repeat them. Opening ourselves up to being just a little bit vulnerable with the people we trust. Learning from our experience the difference between who is really interested in us vs who is just looking for his next score. Finally, and most importantly, it means believing we deserve a healthy relationship.
That's a lot of homework! It's not surprising that many people haven't gotten to that point... hell, it only took me 40 years! LOL I am glad to see anybody who is here searching for help, but especially glad to see the younger guys, who have a chance to change their lives now and not spend years or decades in the emotional (and sexual) limbo that I went through.
I am happy to be of help whenever and however I can.
Thanks again, Dan
"That which does not kill us, surely makes us stonger." - Neitsche