hello, i'm new, i have looked for a while, this looks like an ok place. i have some trouble and would like to talk about it sometime.

thank you
cameron

Welcome Cameron!

This is a good place to be, a place where hopefully soon you'll discover you truly are among friends. By now I'm sure you've seen the several areas for posting - there's also the chat room for talking - though it doesn't always have people in it.

Again - welcome!

M

Cameron,

Welcome you have found a great place at MS. No one is judgemental or mean...everyone here cares about one thing...your healing.

If you want to talk you can PM me....or come into chat...we can talk in private. Or if you feel comfortable enough...post here.

Sincerely,
Brian

thanks.
my brother doesnt like me and he hits me a lot. i dont know what to do to make him stop and theres not anybody who cares much around here so i dont know what to do. i thought i would talk about that if its ok

if you need to talk about it - that makes it "ok" we can talk here on this post or in chat - your choice.

I'm guessing your brother is older?

M

no i dont like chat. he is 5 years older then me. hes a jerk i hate him my mother thinks hes perfect but hes not. him and his freinds act like they own it here and i hate them.

wow. sounds like me and my older brother - except he's 6 years older than me.

are his friends over at the house a lot? do you have any ability to go out and just get away sometimes when they come over?

there here all the time like they think thye live here or something. i can go out but then i have to come back so better to just stay sometimes.

understood...

do you have your own room?

ya its an aparment its small but yes i have my own room

well that's good - at least you have someplace "yours", even small. I wasn't always that lucky.

so i take it your mother won't do anything about your brother's abuse.

he comes in whenever he wants, him and his friends hang out in my room and trash it on purpose then my mother thinks i did it, they think its funny. i put a lock on the door one time and he smashed the door down,he was so pissed i thot he would kill me. i dont think my mother knows

Hey, Cameron - I'm sorry but I have to go for a while.

Again, welcome to MS!!!

M

ok

did i say something wrong? sorry if i did

No you didnt...Mark is at work Cameron. Not your fault!!

1. if your mother doesn't know - it's time to talk to her. ESPECIALLY if his friends are trashing your room - she needs to protect your rights.

2. you said NOTHING wrong - i'm at work and have stuff i gotta get done. i'm on and off a lot all day.

3. i'm glad we met.

M

ok thanks sorry i was paranoid. i cant talk to her cuz for one she has enough stuff to worry about and 2 she wont believe me anyways and 3 when she is around shes either sleeping or drunk so she wont care anyways

Cameron,

I used to think I was burdening my mom if I had told her but now 25 years later when I told her it did more damage, she wishes I had told her. Your mother should protect you and want to.

Brian

i cant tell her. then what if i do tell her and she dont believe me then he knows i told then he has more reasons to hate me then im in big trouble

I am so sorry Cameron.....do you have another adult to talk to...maybe someone at school???

i thought about it but no i havent talked to anybody about it, i thougt i would talk here first see what happens.

I would see if you can find a counselor to talk to at school....at church...if your Mom is not prtecting you then you have to take steps to protect yourself.

Brian

If your mom is unwilling or unable to take care of you - then you need to do it. As wierd as it may be. Please, talk to an adult - someone there.

Are you in danger from your brother? Does he beat you - or just pick on you? If you are in danger, you need to act now!

M

ok this is too many questions i just wanted to see if someone could talk who knows how i feel

Okay sorry bud.....we just want to help.

sorry. i mean i dont think hes dangerous like that he would try and really hurt me to bad or kill me or anything

Cameron...a person doesnt have to be a murder to kill us inside. There are alot of definitions of "hurt me bad" and any kind of hurt is bad.

well he beats me up a lot, i fight back but hes way bigger

when my brother hit me, he wasn't just picking - he was out to cause damage. major damage.

so if i over-reacted, i am truly sorry. if you're not in danger, that's ok - i just was concerned for your safety. just stay safe.

m

Thats hard...I know. But its time you fought back with someone else on your side. If your mom wont do anything then you need to speak to the authorities or someone at school.

maybe

Cameron you have to get out of that situation. You cant continue on...you need to be protected...is your father in the picture?

i dont know where he is

is there a teacher or someone in a church you trust?

i dont want to talk here outloud about this anymore

ok

I'm still glad we met, cameron. And I'm happy to talk to you anytime I'm around. Here, chat, or private message. About anything.



M

hey cameron, I'm Scott. I just got in today, so I've just now started reading this thread.
My brother use to be pretty bad with me when I was younger. I think I have forgotten a lot of the damage done, but, looking back, it was pretty scary and very hurtful. feel free to talk anytime, and welcome to malesurvivor!!