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#170007 - 07/31/07 09:07 AM My Thoughts...(Triggers)
kellygtx Offline
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Registered: 07/11/07
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Loc: Texas, USA
Deleted by author.



Edited by kellygtx (07/31/07 04:06 PM)

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#170019 - 07/31/07 10:03 AM Re: My Thoughts...(Triggers) [Re: kellygtx]
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Kelly,

It simportant that you dont put labels on yourself. You dont have to label what you are...you are you...and as long as you are happy with that...well thats all that matter.

I am glad you have not acted out....its important you dont cheat on your wife, if you love her you wont do that. Now I have a question that the mods may not like but I have talked with straight males who like anal sex...have you tried using a "toy" instead of acting out?

I know a few married guys who enjoy anal sex...there is nothing wrong with that. Their wives understand as well and use "toys" on them to satisfy that "need".

I am glad you are healthy especially since your brother died of AID's. If you act out please make sure you are safe about it....you dont want to get something and bring it back to your wife!!!

Sincerely,
Brian

BTW...if this is too personal..I am sorry...also if you feel more comfortable PM me!!

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#170119 - 07/31/07 02:44 PM Re: My Thoughts...(Triggers) [Re: pain4ever]
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kelly dude,
i'm new here today, trying to get acquainted. what you are feeling inside i can also understand. altho i consider myself "bi", i have been too messed up to have a relationship.
as brian said above, try to keep within your marriage. if you must act out, be careful. i am also + and anal is a good way to get it. i know how strong the longings are man, believe me. do wat you gotta do, but protect your loved ones as well as yourself. maybe find a SAFE "friend" that can lead you in and back? i am also on the hunt. be gentle with yourself.
jaybee

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#170135 - 07/31/07 03:18 PM Re: My Thoughts...(Triggers) [Re: jaybee]
kellygtx Offline
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Brian and Jaybee,

I appreciate what you both have had to say...but it is more along the line of giving in a little - not what I am after. I am changing my behavior before it is too late. Don't get me wrong, I hold no judgements about what others do. Just for me, reliving the trauma by trying to master it is a road to distruction. I know that now. I am not sure why I posted this and now wish I would not have. I am sorry if I have offended or triggered anyone - it was not my intention.



Edited by kellygtx (07/31/07 04:06 PM)
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I bid you Peace.

Kelly

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#170173 - 07/31/07 07:12 PM Re: My Thoughts...(Triggers) [Re: kellygtx]
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Kelly, don't be sorry; it was an interesting post. I'm sorry you felt you have to delete it.

This is a place where I've found that honest feelings can be talked about openly, without fear of judgement or humiliation. I know there are a lot of guys out there with similar feelings, (I am one of them) and the discussion could have been of value to everyone.

I'm not sure I understand your post above; I hope we didn't misunderstand you before. No need to apologize.

Best regards,

Lazarus

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