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#16910 - 10/31/02 04:00 AM Proof that there is a first time for everything
rolling_is_life Offline
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Registered: 10/16/02
Posts: 53
Loc: Olympia, Washington
Now, im still new to all this posting bis, but i have something i felt was important to share. Lately i have not been dealing well with my SA and the affects its had on me and my life, and id like to say alot of u tryed to help, and some did. But for the first time i plan to go see a therapist, and anyone who has talked to me on that subject knows i regard them with a hatered. But tonight I was lying in my bed, and i came to the conclusion, i don't need this in my life, I don't need to not be able to sleep because i have flash backs, i don't need to be angry 24/7 and i don't need to push away people in my family and friends who i care about because im always mad and can never tell them why. I need someone to tell all this to who knows what they are doing *not sayin u all don't* But some of the issues have become to big for myself to handle. I still plan to visit this site often, Because i have met people who i care about here and want to kepe talking to. But this message really has no point. im just happy for once i m goiing to see a T and its on my own free will. im more proclaiming it then anything. I guess should be going to bed now, Thnx for listening to me rant and mumblle once again. :rolleyes: -Keith

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#16911 - 10/31/02 06:46 AM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
Roy Offline
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Registered: 08/02/02
Posts: 184
Loc: Los Angeles
Glad to see you are making a decision and choosing to care for yourself by getting professional help. That's awesome. "Proclaiming" is a powerful word and in so doing, you are taking your power back.


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#16912 - 10/31/02 07:46 AM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
That's a huge step Keith, I think it's one that you'll benefit from now YOU have made the choice to go.

Well done, and don't be too much of a stranger here.

Lloydy

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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#16913 - 10/31/02 11:01 AM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
andrew-almost52 Offline
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Registered: 10/31/02
Posts: 243
Loc: canada
Good for you Keith. And don't be discouraged if you feel like you're taking a few steps backwards first. It sometimes works like that. There is no courage without anxiety.


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#16914 - 10/31/02 12:37 PM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hi Keith,

It is good to hear that you want to get really serious in working on the effects of the SA in your life. We know that it impacts us all to a very great degree in so many aspects of our life.

I hope that you get a really good T the first time. I have had a number of them, some good, some just okay and one that was just not competent at all in this matter of SA.

Come here to talk out what is going on, if you want. Let us know that you are okay. Or that you are struggling.

You don't need to worry about what you write here. We all know lots of anger and rage within us.

Good luck Keith. It will be hard work but it will be worth it. You are doing this at an early age before you build up years of denial and defenses that are just of no help.

Peace to you Keith!

Bob

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#16915 - 10/31/02 01:54 PM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...
Keith:

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--Daffy Duck

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#16916 - 10/31/02 01:57 PM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...
Keith:

Good move, brother survivor! Speaking from some experience, even a T who's not that great can still say things you can build on & draw benefit from. However I'm hoping you find the best possible T in your area. Also, I find this a great place to during the week process what I go over with my T each week. Often, I gain insights here I share with my T. WTG, Keith!

Take Care

Wuame

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#16917 - 10/31/02 02:25 PM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
Chey-Wy Offline
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Registered: 09/01/02
Posts: 241
Loc: Cheyenne, WY
Keith,

You have made a good decision. Like the others have said, I hope you find a good therapist on the frist try. My only advice would be to give him/her at least three sessions. Hopefuly it will be a perfect match and you will get along great. But, I also have had a T that wasn't a perfect match. She and I did not get along at all. Personally I find that I can deal with a male T better than a female T ( I get embarased talking to a female T about "serious" topics relating to the S A. I want to wish you the best. Also, come in here often. I have found that I will discuss something in here and then bring it up with my T when I see him. I wish you the best with it.

Also, it is O K not to feel comfortable with a T and go looking for another one. ( Been there ... done that.

Good luck,

John

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Yeah, the good Lord gave us mountains,
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#16918 - 10/31/02 04:04 PM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
Thad Offline
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Registered: 08/28/01
Posts: 1752
Loc: Oakland, CA
woo hoo! right on Keith!

Oh, and thanks for sharing it. Every time I see a small or large step in healing I smile broadly and reflect on my own need to keep working at this.
....t

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"The truth will set you free, but first it will probably piss you off." dwf's AA sponsor.

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#16919 - 10/31/02 07:31 PM Re: Proof that there is a first time for everything
rolling_is_life Offline
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Registered: 10/16/02
Posts: 53
Loc: Olympia, Washington
Last night I was intent on telling my mom this morning that I wanted to pursue therapy, and I chockedright b4 I did it. The problem is...iv convinced here since I was 11 that im fine, and that my probs are little and im over them. So explaining to her is a huge dilema on why i need to go to therapy. My dad doesn't live with us, or id tell him *he was abused so he'd know I dont want to explain why i need to go to a T* but my mom i know will get very nosey, so..dunno how im gonna tell her, i might have to wait till i c my \:\( dad again and try to go through him.

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