Wow, thanks for all the feedback guys.
First, yes I am a survivor. Part of my story is posted in the Survivors Stories Forum.
You do not have to be naked to receive a massage, what I tell my clients is to "undress to your comfort level" this means if you are comfortable being naked, get naked, if you are comfortable leaving your underwear on leave them on. I had a client in school who would leave her sweat pants on. When you are on my massage table you are covered with a sheet for modesty and just the body part I am working on is uncovered and draped in a way that no private areas are exposed. I leave the room when the client undresses and gets on the table and they let me know when they are covered and ready. I also explain to the client that I will massage the face, head, neck, shoulders, arms, legs, feet and back. The gluets or buttocks, are massaged through the sheet if they prefer. I also ask if there are any of these areas they would prefer I avoid. I let the client they are in control at all times and to let me know if there is anything they do not like or that makes them uncomfortable.
As for finding a Massage Therapist, that is what you look for, a Massage Therapist, not a masseuse. Look for someone who is certified or licensed. I am certified through the Associated Bodywork & Massage Professionals, they have a minimum amount of class work and clinic work to be eligible for certification. They have a listing service at http://www.abmp.com
for anyone interested.
To begin with a general, swedish relaxation massage would be good to start. From there you and your Massage Therapist can discuss the options in bodywork that are available and would work best for what you want to accomplish, ie.. relaxation, chronic pain relief, releasing frozen muscles etc.
It is quite common for emotions to be released during massage, memories are stored in the soft tissue of the body. A well trained Massage Therapist is aware of this possibility and is prepared for it. There is no need to be embarrassed. It is this very release that makes massage a good tool for some in recovery.
As for "getting excited" during a massage, this has never happened to me as a Massage Therapist or as a client. We were taught in school that it is very common and is beyond the clients control. A good Massage Therapist will not bring attention to it and move from the area they were working when it occurred. On the other hand the client should not bring attention to either, lest it be misconstrued as harassment. If it happens, ignore it and eventually it will go away.
Most importantly, talk to your Therapist and give good feedback about your massage!
I have been thinking about figuring some way to reach out to those men recovering from CSA. Not sure how to go about it though.
Hope this was enlightening for some of you guys, and that I answered all the questions, sorry it was so long!