Making love is wonderful and so much different than sex.
I second that remark. After being with my wonderful boyfriend for 6 years, I have found that there is a big difference between "getting off" and the type of orgasm experienced when we are really connecting during love making (I admit it does feel kinda awkward calling it that). It has taken me a long time to be able to get to that point of comfort, and I still have work to do.
I remember a lot of "gloom and doom" thinking in my mid 20's (I am 35). I was under the impression that I was not capable of having a loving healthy relationship, I just sort of believed that I was permanently broken, or that fate would always make sure I can't have that, like if I were trapped in a sort of caste system.
I have to tell you, I never thought I could meet someone as fantastic as my guy, and he never ceases to amaze me with his warmth and generosity. I absolutely do not want that to sound like I'm bragging or anything as gross as that, I just want to share that it's all in your mind. It's what you choose
to believe about yourself that makes the difference. It just hit me one day that I didn't want to believe that anymore, so I decided to try believing that I AM capable and worth it. I started to feel so much better about myself.
deserve the kind of relationship we really want, but think we can't have.