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#167957 - 07/20/07 01:25 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: Scoutvictim]
jessedawg Offline
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Registered: 07/17/07
Posts: 345
Loc: New York
Thanks a lot carl I wasnt sure what the reception would be like if and when I came back- I can see that what I thought it might be like is totally different than it actually is and I mean that in a good way. yes theres a huge mental health department associated with the station I work at, set up for dealing with stress on the job, dealing with death, was really reinforced after 9/11- but these houses are like small towns, you talk to one guy and everyone knows your business.

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#167958 - 07/20/07 01:41 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: jessedawg]
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Registered: 06/04/07
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Loc: St. Louis, Missouri
Jesse,

That's a problem, I lived in a town where we only had one diner and one grocery store. I used to say, "by the time I would get up in the morning and go to the diner for breakfast, everyone knew what color my underwear was for the day." LOL

You may want to consider an outside therapist, but take your time, come to this site often and work up the strength to find your own way to healing.

Also remember, this is Engine House MS1, and we're all here to help you fight this fire.

This is a journey, not a race.

Carl

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Shawn and Ben will always be in my heart....

Happiness is like peeing your pants; Everyone can see it, but only YOU feel the warmth.

Peebles, Ohio WOR alumni, Oct. 2007

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#167960 - 07/20/07 01:46 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: Scoutvictim]
jessedawg Offline
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Loc: New York
lol, funny- thanks
I do see a therapist but I was forced to go and I cant stand him so maybe Ill see if I can get someone else, start new

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#167961 - 07/20/07 01:51 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: jessedawg]
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Jesse,

Well it is very important to like and TRUST your therapist. It took me four trys before I found one who helped me.

Once you do find the right one, he/she will be a god send.

Keep fighting,
Carl

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Shawn and Ben will always be in my heart....

Happiness is like peeing your pants; Everyone can see it, but only YOU feel the warmth.

Peebles, Ohio WOR alumni, Oct. 2007

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#167968 - 07/20/07 02:06 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: Scoutvictim]
jessedawg Offline
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Registered: 07/17/07
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Loc: New York
trust- its like some joke that just goes on and on and on

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#167971 - 07/20/07 02:13 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: jessedawg]
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Loc: Denver, CO
"trust- its like some joke that just goes on and on and on"

Yet it's near impossible to have relationship without some level of it.

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#167973 - 07/20/07 02:15 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: FormerTexan]
jessedawg Offline
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I hear that- relationship? whats that?

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#167974 - 07/20/07 02:15 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: jessedawg]
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Registered: 08/22/05
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Trust is real. The hard part is finding people who are worthy of one's trust.

One of the more insidious effects of being abused is that we don't trust our own judgment of who can be trusted and who can't be, so we play it safe and trust no one.

With a therapist, trust isn't automatic, nor should it be. The T needs to earn your trust. Various things can do that over time, such as not pulling any punches, not pushing you to go somewhere you aren't ready to go, not manipulating you... the list goes on.

Notice that the things above apply to interpersonal relationships too.

What it boils down to is we need to learn how to trust ourselves to make the judgment as to whether another is worthy of trust... and I don't know of any way to do that except to keep trying.


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#168006 - 07/20/07 07:37 PM Re: Almost ran [Re: Dewey2k]
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Jesse,

Like I said to you in PM earlier today I'm glad you decided to return. What you're doing here is so important. In fact, it will be one of the most important things you do in all your life.

Try not to take in the whole huge picture at once, if you can. It's when we do this that we are most easily overwhelmed. Also, do bear in mind that all the emotions that are messing with you so bad right now are feelings we all have in one way or another. You will feel so many things as you go through this, but be sure you aren't alone.

I think the absolutely most important thing you should aim for at the moment is to keep talking about things. It's a powerful thing when we do that. We regain our voice and get the idea it's okay to say we need help and support. And talking about it is one way we have of rejecting the shame and blame.

Hang in there, bro. You can do it.

Much love,
Larry


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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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