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#166468 - 07/13/07 09:02 AM Last night
Jaysen Offline
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Registered: 06/14/06
Posts: 680
So last night I went next door to my neighbors and had some drinks, a lot of drinks, with them. Normally this would have been the perfect opportunity for me to get into some trouble what with the amount of alcohol and the company... but I didn't, I stayed in control had a good time and left. It wasn't easy to do. I think this might be the first time ever in my life that I got drunk and didn't follow it up with sex. This might not sound like a big deal but it's a huge deal for me. I mean I actually had a good time without the abuse.

J


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#166470 - 07/13/07 09:08 AM Re: Last night [Re: Jaysen]
pain4ever Offline


Registered: 04/05/01
Posts: 1032
THAT IS A HUGE DEAL...CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!

See, YOU control you, not your abuse, not your abusers!!!

I AM SO PROUD!!

Your Friend,
Brian

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Peace and Tranquility all depends on your frame of reference.

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#166472 - 07/13/07 09:12 AM Re: Last night [Re: pain4ever]
MarkK Offline
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Registered: 04/02/07
Posts: 2503
Loc: Denver, CO
WOOHOO! Way to go Jaysen!!
This is VERY HUGE. I am so jazzed for you.

Thank you for sharing your victory. I'll be grinning for hours!!!


M


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#166477 - 07/13/07 09:42 AM Re: Last night [Re: MarkK]
cbfull Offline
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Registered: 01/26/07
Posts: 386
Loc: Ohio
I've read through a few of your posts and it sounds like a big deal to me!

Great job!

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Guilt and shame have never done any of us any good at all.

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#166492 - 07/13/07 10:35 AM Re: Last night [Re: cbfull]
Jaysen Offline
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Registered: 06/14/06
Posts: 680
Thanks, thanks...


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#166495 - 07/13/07 10:44 AM Re: Last night [Re: Jaysen]
Brian Offline
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Registered: 05/03/01
Posts: 1563
Loc: Upstate NY
Way to go Jaysen! Recovery is one step at a time - and this one is a BIG one for you! Congratulations!!

Brian

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#166497 - 07/13/07 10:46 AM Re: Last night [Re: Brian]
pain4ever Offline


Registered: 04/05/01
Posts: 1032
Standing ovation for Jaysen!!!

(Standing and clapping)

Brian

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#166524 - 07/13/07 03:45 PM Re: Last night [Re: pain4ever]
Logan Offline
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Posts: 1205
Loc: NY
(still claping, and boy are my hands tired) Yeah, Jasen that really is a big deal. I used to assoiate all types of thing with sex. especially love. Now I know that I can be loved without having to have sex or 'paying for it(the attention)'.

WAY TO GO, man
Logan

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"Quite a thing to live in fear, this is what is means to be a slave"
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#166545 - 07/13/07 06:36 PM Re: Last night [Re: Logan]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
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Loc: Carlisle, PA
Hey Jay,

Well done. I can well imagine what a big moment this is for you. Congratulations! Jay rules!!!!!

Much cheering,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#166612 - 07/14/07 02:47 AM Re: Last night [Re: roadrunner]
skingraph Offline
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Registered: 03/24/07
Posts: 39
hmmm,im the exact oposite,all drink no sex,i used to drink soo much,never had memories of it,like a black out,then get my second wind of drinking,most of my time when i was drinking,it wasn't about getting some woman drunk or me getting laid,it was about forgetting,did that for years.Thing was most women would get drunk on their own,and i wasn't even bothered with them.



Edited by skingraph (07/14/07 02:49 AM)

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#166638 - 07/14/07 09:16 AM Re: Last night [Re: skingraph]
Lazarus Offline
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Registered: 07/01/07
Posts: 851
Loc: Below the radar, USA
Good for you Jaysen!

Skingraph, a lot of people use alcohol and drugs to forget, or to get themselves out of a potentially triggering event, like picking someone up and having sex. For 'sluts' like me, it was one or the other, either I'd drink too much OR I'd do something else I'd regret.

That's why Jaysen's achievement is so significantly cool. You go, buddy!

Lazarus

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#166674 - 07/14/07 01:12 PM Re: Last night [Re: Lazarus]
WalkingSouth Offline
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Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16265
Sometimes progress comes when we least expect it. Good on ya, Jaysen!

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#166837 - 07/15/07 03:46 PM Re: Last night [Re: WalkingSouth]
deck Offline
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Registered: 08/19/06
Posts: 109
Loc: Indiana
Congratulations!!


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#166917 - 07/16/07 12:16 AM Re: Last night [Re: skingraph]
EGL Offline
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Registered: 06/19/04
Posts: 7821
It sounds like a big deal to me, too! Congratulations, man!

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#166966 - 07/16/07 01:24 PM Re: Last night [Re: EGL]
Jaysen Offline
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Registered: 06/14/06
Posts: 680
Thanks everyone...


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#166976 - 07/16/07 01:59 PM Re: Last night [Re: Jaysen]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Jay,

How are things? It's been a few days.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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