sometimes i believe others want us to forgive because they want what we went through to be over, to be in the past and forgotten - in their minds, whether or not it is in ours. i think sometimes these same individuals have difficulty accepting just how terrible some acts really are and how much damage can be done - especially if it was by a member of your own family.
Thanks for this insight, with which I 100% agree. Sometimes the notion of forgiving is like telling us we should "get over it" because "it was a long time ago". This is to ignore, of course, the enormous emotional damage that continues for years and years after the physical acts of abuse stop.