i;m not too sure how this works ,but i'm shadow and i sure could use some help ,i think most of my problem right now is how much our courts let me down .i put him away ,now he is out and he is going to get me ,i just know it .if anyone asked me if they should prosecute someone my advice would be NO. i'm 21 now ,i was 13 when he went to jail .if anybody wants to talk please let me know shadow

Have a PFA served on him . If the SOB even tryes to get any where near you He will be arested and sent back to prison

I can't be there to protect you but I can tell you that you have the power to stand up to this man. You don't have to be afraid, he doesn't have any control over you. I bet he is actually frail and scared behind that powerful facade. I give to you all the strength you are ready to receive.

wow somebody will talk to me !thanks , well he's not frail or scared ,he is an animal ,at the time he abused me he weighed about 200 ,6ft 1 or 2,god only knows about now after almost 8 years behind bars .i just can't understand how our courts can lie ,make promises and not keep them to a child! i was at age 13 conned into going through a trial that was almost worse than the abuse with the promise that he would get life in prison.i spent two days starring at him and telling every disgusting thing he did to me or made me do .this man held me prisoner for 97 days abused me day and night for 3 months ,kept me locked in a tiny closet when he wasn't abusing me ,finally got tired of me and tried to kill me leaving me for dead in a ditch . he was charged with false imprisonement ,attempted murder ,and hundreds of sex charges . i found out after the trial he got a plea bargain 7 years !! 7 years for destroying me completly ,i will never be the same ,all the sex charges were dropped in favor of the attempted murder on which he was found guilty ,7 god damn years . i have to say he does still have control over me if i saw him today ,i know i would fall apart ,he didn't just control me ,he broke me ,he owned me ,one look from him and i would be an 11 year old boy again cowering in that stinking dark closet ,this is why i have to make sure i never come into contact with him again ,hey thanks for talking to me shadow

Hi Shadow,

I'm sitting here in tears reading about what happened to you. I can only imagine how terrible that must have been for you. Would it be OK if I gave you a cyber hug, I hope so 'cause it sure seems like you need one right now.

(((((((((((((((Shadow)))))))))))))))

I think you'll find there are a bunch of good guys here, Shadow. I hope you will hang around here with us. You'll find this is a good place to vent your frustrations and pain. Shout and scream if you want to. We'll listen and won't tell you not to feel the way you're feeling. You have every right to have those feelings and be angry. Let it out, Bro.

John

Greetings Shadow

My heart goes out to you. I have no idea what to say, about all I can do from here is listen (read). I can't imagin how much courage it took to tell us. And yes, there is a lot of us who not only will listen, but we are also very willing to talk to you.

The answer is there if you look.

Darrel

Shadow,

I am always here to help when and where I can my friend. For what it is worth you did the right thing. You took a step in the right direction and nothign can change that. If he trys to bother you get a court order so he can not be around you. If he is call the police anytime he is around you. Their are always options my friend if you would like to talk please feel free to post on the forums. We are here to support you the best we can.


lots of love, Nathan

Before you do anything drastic, please understand that you have a lot more potential safeguards than you may be aware of.

He will likely have a parole officer assigned to him who can make his life a living hell if s/he wants or needs to. There should be a "no contact" condition of parole. Even staring at you, should he see you, could be considered contact and send him back to prison.

Sex offenders are under increasingly harsh conditions about where they can live, contact with former victims or children, etc.

Contact the prosecutor and or parole office where he will be released to. They are in business to protect you.

Ken Singer

I suspect that you have more strength, power and control over this situation than you give yourself credit for. I understand the source of the terror that you seem to be expressing, but that source does not have to control you any longer. Be careful, protect yourself, but don't panic.

I agree, you took the right steps. I also agree that you should contact the parole officer and or the prosecution. You can stay a step or two ahead of him. I have no experience in sentencing or penal system but its not over when he gets out, he is not free to do whatever he wants without consequences. I can't speak for your state of mind at this time so you do what is best for you.

Just to clarify, I don't think the perp would be considered a sex offender since it was pleaded out. Something else I would let the parole officer know.