But can a soul really get so accustomed to being down they will push away any chance for happiness?
When a guy does that he doesn't see himself as pushing away a chance for happiness, he sees himself as avoiding a risk of disaster. This is what happens when a boy is abused. He comes to see the world as full of danger that can reach him from anywhere at any time. That feeling doesn't fade just because the boy is a man now.
This is a stage that we pass through, bro. Yes, it sucks, and yes, it takes too long. But yes, we are worth it.