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#162391 - 06/19/07 10:59 PM wondering about STD testing
knot4sail16 Offline
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Hey guys,

Okay, I need some advice. I was abused by another kid when I was seven. I am now twenty-two. I have never exhibited any distinct signs of STDs, but I am about to get married and have not had sexual contact with my fiance. I am wondering if I should get a panel of tests done just to be safe and certain that I am not going to transmit anything to my wife. Also concerned about HPV since I could be carrying it without knowing and it is know to cause cervical cancer in women.

Any thoughts?

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#162401 - 06/19/07 11:23 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
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Please test. Can you think of any good reason not to?

I would also recommend you share as much with your wife as you can. Take it from someone married 18 years... the secrets are not healthy for your relationship. You have done nothing wrong.

Keith



Edited by KeithR (06/19/07 11:24 PM)

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#162402 - 06/19/07 11:27 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
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Edited by selene (10/04/07 03:53 AM)
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#162404 - 06/19/07 11:30 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: KeithR]
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Keith R. thanks for the advice. Fortunately I started dealing with things prior to our relationship beginning and she has known from the start. That kind of freedom is a beautiful thing.



Edited by knot4sail16 (06/19/07 11:31 PM)
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#166320 - 07/12/07 02:47 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
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Went to the doctor today. says things look fine. It was incredibly uncomfortable, and a bit scary but got through it. Now waiting for a couple of test results, but pretty confident of the all clear. Glad I did it.

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#166360 - 07/12/07 06:14 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
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Knot,

Well done! I'm sure the peace of mind is worth the trauma and discomfort of the tests themselves. It's for the best not to have this kind of drama hanging over a relationship. Again, all the very best to you and Indigo.

Much love,
Larry

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#166363 - 07/12/07 06:27 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: roadrunner]
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what exactly do they do when testing for stds?


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#166394 - 07/12/07 09:37 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
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getting tested is no big deal. anyone who is sexually active should be screened every 6 months.

what they do:
they take blood for some.
they swab for other. (either your anus or your ureathra.) but some places dont swab unless you show signs of stds.
HIV has a oral swab now but others like Hep is still tested through the blood.
you also piss in a cup.
i know it sounds pretty intense but its not a big deal. you get used to it. it should be part of your healthy lifestyle. the HIV rapid test (oral swab) takes about 20 minutes to get the results. the other take about a week to get results.


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#166430 - 07/13/07 01:46 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: Jarrad]
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whew! they've just ran a ton of blood work on me last week due to some health problems i have. so they would have said something.


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#166442 - 07/13/07 02:55 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
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terpprm,

I'm not sure this is the case, but I would not assume that if you have had blood work done that would have detected possible STDs. That is, if they aren't specifically testing for STDs, would they show up in the results anyway?

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#166485 - 07/13/07 10:15 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: roadrunner]
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yeah if you get a random blood test they dont test it for everything on the planet. it they were cheking sugar levels they dont check for hiv. so you cant assume that you are "okay"


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#166504 - 07/13/07 11:22 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: Jarrad]
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k. well i'll have to go get tested. where do i go? also, i just wanted to say, that my opinion is that everybody should get std tested before getting married. whether they've had sex or not. because you don't have to have sex to carry an std.


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#166557 - 07/13/07 07:14 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
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terpprm,

As I remember, when my fiancee and I wanted to get married back in 1981 (before AIDS, that is), we had to produce the results of STD tests before we could get our license. That was in PA and I would be surprised if there aren't similar regulations in Ohio.

Much love,
Larry

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#166563 - 07/13/07 08:21 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: roadrunner]
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even if it weren't a law, i still think it should happen. its just considerate. i mean, stds happen other ways other than just sex. i think that everyone no matter what should want to be tested for their spouses sake. i mean they love them right? i'd want to be sure.


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#166574 - 07/13/07 09:37 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
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actually stds dont happen anyother way besides sex. hense the term sexually trasmitted diseases. not to be a smart alec or anything. technically HIV isn't a disease. its a virus. so thats not an std anyway. the typical ones, chymidia, gonerhea, syphillus, all those good ones and be trasmitted from brith to babies if the mother is infected but will show up typically in the eyes of babies and will present itself soon there after. when it is transmitted this way, i think it also gets a different name. like i know there are different types of herpes based on where the outbreaks happen. i'm not 100% sure on the others. most stds show up within weeks of contact. its still a good idea to get tested, but chances are if you had sex a million years ago and havent had it since, you are fine in the std department. HIV, because it isnt an std, is another case. viruses can remain dormant for a while but typically show up after 6 months.


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#166602 - 07/14/07 01:07 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: Jarrad]
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really? i was told that contact to open wounds can bring on a stds.


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#166604 - 07/14/07 01:18 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
Jarrad Offline
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uhh if you have a big open wound and you rub it on an infected dick, yes. that could be possible. but passing it from wound to wound is really rare. it woudl take a whole lotta rubbing and a whole lotta blood.


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#166653 - 07/14/07 11:12 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: roadrunner]
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Larry, it depends on what your doctor is looking for. In our area the only routine STD test they run is for HIV. All the others have to be specifically requested.

FYI

Lazarus

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#166656 - 07/14/07 11:27 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: Lazarus]
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Thanks Laz. I'm way out of date on all this stuff. I would feel like an alien if I were suddenly "out there" seeing people again. lol

Much love,
Larry

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#166668 - 07/14/07 12:32 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: roadrunner]
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Oh me too; I'm happily married and not seeing anyone else. We have a lot of gay friends though, and as we get older we have gained a familiarity with medical treatments and my current next best friend is a nurse. She tells me a lot.

Especially in the case of private health care, you get what you pay for, and ONLY what you pay for...

Grins,

Lazarus

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#166708 - 07/14/07 05:24 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: Lazarus]
Jarrad Offline
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im the king of stds. chances are ive had whatever at one time or another. haha


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