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#162391 - 06/19/07 10:59 PM wondering about STD testing
knot4sail16 Offline
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Registered: 06/19/07
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Loc: Southeastern U.S.
Hey guys,

Okay, I need some advice. I was abused by another kid when I was seven. I am now twenty-two. I have never exhibited any distinct signs of STDs, but I am about to get married and have not had sexual contact with my fiance. I am wondering if I should get a panel of tests done just to be safe and certain that I am not going to transmit anything to my wife. Also concerned about HPV since I could be carrying it without knowing and it is know to cause cervical cancer in women.

Any thoughts?

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#162401 - 06/19/07 11:23 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
KeithR Offline
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Please test. Can you think of any good reason not to?

I would also recommend you share as much with your wife as you can. Take it from someone married 18 years... the secrets are not healthy for your relationship. You have done nothing wrong.

Keith



Edited by KeithR (06/19/07 11:24 PM)

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#162402 - 06/19/07 11:27 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
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Edited by selene (10/04/07 03:53 AM)
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#162404 - 06/19/07 11:30 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: KeithR]
knot4sail16 Offline
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Keith R. thanks for the advice. Fortunately I started dealing with things prior to our relationship beginning and she has known from the start. That kind of freedom is a beautiful thing.



Edited by knot4sail16 (06/19/07 11:31 PM)
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#166320 - 07/12/07 02:47 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
knot4sail16 Offline
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Went to the doctor today. says things look fine. It was incredibly uncomfortable, and a bit scary but got through it. Now waiting for a couple of test results, but pretty confident of the all clear. Glad I did it.

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#166360 - 07/12/07 06:14 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: knot4sail16]
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Knot,

Well done! I'm sure the peace of mind is worth the trauma and discomfort of the tests themselves. It's for the best not to have this kind of drama hanging over a relationship. Again, all the very best to you and Indigo.

Much love,
Larry

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#166363 - 07/12/07 06:27 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: roadrunner]
terpprm Offline
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what exactly do they do when testing for stds?


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#166394 - 07/12/07 09:37 PM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
Jarrad Offline
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getting tested is no big deal. anyone who is sexually active should be screened every 6 months.

what they do:
they take blood for some.
they swab for other. (either your anus or your ureathra.) but some places dont swab unless you show signs of stds.
HIV has a oral swab now but others like Hep is still tested through the blood.
you also piss in a cup.
i know it sounds pretty intense but its not a big deal. you get used to it. it should be part of your healthy lifestyle. the HIV rapid test (oral swab) takes about 20 minutes to get the results. the other take about a week to get results.


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#166430 - 07/13/07 01:46 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: Jarrad]
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whew! they've just ran a ton of blood work on me last week due to some health problems i have. so they would have said something.


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#166442 - 07/13/07 02:55 AM Re: wondering about STD testing [Re: terpprm]
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terpprm,

I'm not sure this is the case, but I would not assume that if you have had blood work done that would have detected possible STDs. That is, if they aren't specifically testing for STDs, would they show up in the results anyway?

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