Thank you that was all very well put. I don't know what happened with you in the past since I'm kinda new, and I don't need to know. What I do know is that sincere balanced expressions like this post can only build trust & do us all good.
And whatever you did, I'm sure it was radically different and not even close to anything "Lying Cub" perpetrated. You show great sensitivity in relating the mistrust over "Lying" to whatever you did, as you do in your willingness to forgive him. But don't compare yourself with him too much in your mind. As you said, you ARE a survivor! And I think you're really showing it.
Just wanted to encourage you a bit. No details, and I was never banned, but I know the pain of misunderstandings & mistakes at recovery sites. I suspect at least a few of us do.
As for "Lying Crud" his invasion really burns me up, as does the very idea of a T (anybody, but especially a T) doing something like this!
However, he's not worth that much of my emotional energy. :p
So like you, Matt, I end up here:
Take care fellow survivor