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#16183 - 10/28/02 01:34 AM Our trust has been broken
Chey-Wy Offline
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Registered: 09/01/02
Posts: 241
Loc: Cheyenne, WY
The events of the last few days have shaken us all. I too have noticed that there haven't been as many post. I also have noticed that when I go into chat everybody seems to be in private charts. We, as survivors, have issues with trust and Lion Cub broke that trust. I hope I haven't seemed rude to anyone, but I guess I have been very cautious in chat. It would be nice if I could feel comfortable with everyone that comes into chat, but instead I wonder if the person is another imposter. The other thing is that some of the manipulative things that Lion Cub did were the same manipulative things that my perp did to gain my trust. I am feeling so betrayed. Just like I did with Dr, Laughlin.

Dr. Laughlin convinced me that he was " helping me". That what he was doing was "therapy." Dr. Laughlin was a sexual preditor and looking back, every " therapy session" he was moving closer and closer to sexually sexually assaulting me. He just got his chance earlier when Ted Raped me. I went to Dr. Laughlin and the church for help dealing with having been raped by Ted and instead of getting me to the police ( who probably wouldn't have helped anyway) Dr. Laughlin Raped me.

I guess that is what is so disturbing about Lion Cub. That he really is a 30-something Therapist from Reno Nevada. I trusted him to be a 16 year old in need of help. I trusted Dr. Laughlin to be a minister and a therapist who would help me.

Both of them betrayed that trust.

John

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From the Song MOUNTAINS by Lonestar.

Yeah, the good Lord gave us mountains,
So we could learn how to climb

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#16184 - 10/29/02 11:59 AM Re: Our trust has been broken
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...
Matt:

Thank you that was all very well put. I don't know what happened with you in the past since I'm kinda new, and I don't need to know. What I do know is that sincere balanced expressions like this post can only build trust & do us all good.

And whatever you did, I'm sure it was radically different and not even close to anything "Lying Cub" perpetrated. You show great sensitivity in relating the mistrust over "Lying" to whatever you did, as you do in your willingness to forgive him. But don't compare yourself with him too much in your mind. As you said, you ARE a survivor! And I think you're really showing it.

Just wanted to encourage you a bit. No details, and I was never banned, but I know the pain of misunderstandings & mistakes at recovery sites. I suspect at least a few of us do.

As for "Lying Crud" his invasion really burns me up, as does the very idea of a T (anybody, but especially a T) doing something like this!

However, he's not worth that much of my emotional energy. :p

So like you, Matt, I end up here: \:\)

Take care fellow survivor

Wuame

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"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

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#16185 - 10/29/02 12:05 PM Re: Our trust has been broken
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
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John:

That T's of all people could do such things is an abomination & utterly despicable! I hope both the unlaughable Dr. Laughlin and "Lying Cub" are prosecuted & punished to the fullest extent of the law, and beyond. After all you've been thru & all the trusts that have been broken, you remain truly an amazing survivor!

Wuame

_________________________
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

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#16186 - 10/30/02 05:01 AM Re: Our trust has been broken
Les_Angry Offline
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Registered: 10/06/02
Posts: 195
This is typical of the kind of stupid games perps play. Most of the damage my perp did to me was damaging my mental state with games like the ones LionCub played to break down my ability to trust and imagine he gained some sort of stupid sort of superiority over me.


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#16187 - 10/31/02 06:01 PM Re: Our trust has been broken
andrew-almost52 Offline
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Registered: 10/31/02
Posts: 243
Loc: canada
Les, that Lyin OLD TROLL (LC) hasn't won a thing. You're still here. He isn't! Nuff said.


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