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#159835 - 06/04/07 01:52 PM my friend A.
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Registered: 10/09/05
Posts: 89
Loc: Denver, Colorado
Wow, an unexpected trigger. I have a wonderful friend whose name is A. I sometimes refer to her as the one who saved my life.


Long story short: My ex the perp and I did not live in the same city. My friend A and her significant other live in his city. I once ended up having to crash at their place on short notice, and I was pretty distraught. My ex was going out of town (knowing I was coming to visit) and wouldn't let me stay at his apartment. Anyway, A. was able to spend the whole day with me, just wandering around and listening to me. I did not know it at the time but I was in shock and I was dealing with post-traumatic rape symptoms. It hadn't been named that way.


Cut to the present, 3.5 years later: A. is working on a video presentation for an organization we both support, and she asked me for some pictures from that other time period in electronic format. So I popped in an unmarked CD, and there were pictures of my ex on it. It was a major trigger, I just now teared up, and logged on to the site. I will breathe deeply, and not send A. any pictures from that roll. I'm sure she'll understand. I have others.


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#159846 - 06/04/07 03:17 PM Re: my friend A. [Re: cat lover]
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Registered: 04/05/01
Posts: 1032
Wow...its amazing how the simplest and most innocent things come up and get us you know. I am sorry you got triggered...its hard for me to see pics from the past as well. Let alone livein the present with a perp I see regularly.

I hope you are okay...keep talking...
Brian

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#159994 - 06/05/07 09:59 AM Re: my friend A. [Re: pain4ever]
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Loc: Denver, Colorado
Thanks Brian. I don't know how you do it seeing a perp regularly. I feel better today.


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#159999 - 06/05/07 11:08 AM Re: my friend A. [Re: cat lover]
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I am glad you are feeling better. I think we all have those up and down days or little things that trigger us unexpectedly. Thats what makes us human I guess.

I even see a pic of my ex's daughter and I get triggered...has nothing to do with her just him. The sight of her triggers me...but I loved her so much.

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