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“Jongens die zijn misbruikt, worden later zelf dader.”
Veel daders zijn als kind zelf misbruikt. Dit wil niet zeggen dat alle misbruikte kinderen dader worden. Dit hangt af van veel factoren, zoals de manier waarop je er later mee omgaat.

This is clearer in my translation:
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"Boys who are abused, become later themselves perpetrator."
Many perpetrators were themselves abused as children. This does not mean that all abused children become perpetrators. That depends on many factors, such as the way you deal with it later.
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It's not my text, I can't personally re-write any part of it, it comes from original authority who writes many texts for official health-care hand-outs, (which is why it takes so long, but is well-funded), but I do have a chance to offer suggestions for improvement within 1 week. Thanks for your suggestion Brian

Stephan

thanks for your suggestions:

* folder should also be made available online

* an organisation probably willing to support this folder is C.O.C Nederland

* the list of psychological effects is incomplete: see more here http://www.jimhopper.com/

* many websites of mental health care institutions in the Netherlands carry very little specific information on (child) sexual abuse.

* substance abuse problems are often treated as a seperate issue and many survivors have been denied help when being honest about their substance use
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I pm'd you the original, if you have any further tips please let me have them I'll send them all in.

Steve

Thank you Partner,

I have no idea what "Denny's" is, but I will certainly pass on your suggestion:

* martial arts studios would be better suited to having the info available

Thanks

Steve

My own translation would be this:
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"Children.
Telling your own children that you were abused is difficult. It is important though, especially if they are older, that they know what happened to you. Often they can understand your behavior better and understand why you do things the way you do. You don't have to go into details: that you were abused, and possibly who did it, is enough. Be open to questions from your children about this."
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Personally I don't have children so I don't feel able to make a good comment on this; but I do note that the suggestion to talk to your children comes after the suggestion that the abused man should talk to a therapist and talk his partner.

thanks

Steve

Denny's is an all night diner in the US. They serve coffee with free refills and don't mind people sitting and writing or talking for hours.

I tried to add/edit my previous response but lost internet connection. I wanted to say that at least in the US, a great many also play fantasy/escape games at shops that have such gaming available. Again, not to stereotype, but it makes sense and is my observation.

Also, I think in such public areas, many would be more likely to grab a phone number or website or write a meeting time (if there is a group) than spend a large amount of time looking at info in public.

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original post updated with link to folder online.