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#154652 - 05/05/07 10:42 PM Dan's older brother
older_brother Offline
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Hello. This is Dan's older brother. Some of you may know him as dan18. He has confided in me about everything, including this site, and has asked me to reassure you all that he is all right. He does not feel he has the mental strength to come back to this site right now, but he thanks you all for your endless surge of support. I would also like to thank you all for giving my brother the strength to come forward. Before now, I did not feel I completely understood my brother's behavior as of late, though we've been living in the same house side by side for all our lives. Now I feel I can empathize with him once more. Again, thank you all.


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#154656 - 05/05/07 11:30 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: older_brother]
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Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16265
Hello Older Brother,

It's good Dan has a caring sibling such as yourself to whom he can turn. We enjoyed having Dan around here. He's a good soul. Tell him we care about him and wish him well and that he'll always have a place with us here should he get to a place where he feels he can stop by.

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#154657 - 05/05/07 11:34 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: WalkingSouth]
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Registered: 05/02/05
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Loc: Carlisle, PA
Older Brother,

Thanks for letting us know Dan is okay. He's welcome back anytime when he feels he's ready. I'm so glad he told you everything. It's so important for him to have someone close to him who knows and is able to give him the support he needs.

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#154663 - 05/06/07 12:20 AM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: roadrunner]
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Loc: Denver, CO
OB,

We appreciate the status. You sound like a special brother. Please let him know he is in our thoughts.

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#154702 - 05/06/07 07:39 AM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: FormerTexan]
dannym Offline
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Registered: 03/24/07
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Loc: Boulder, Colorado
OB,

I am so glad Dan had the courage to tell you. It seems like he told the right person. Let him know we are all thinking of him and look forward to hearing from him if and when he is ready to come back.

Dan

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"You should listen to your heart, and not the voices in your head."

Marge Simpson

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#154738 - 05/06/07 12:16 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: dannym]
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if we all woulda had a brother like you things could have been so different,dan is a hero for speaking out ,but it takes people like you for the speaking out to be something good instead of just another let down for him. the really important stuff happens after we tell,how people react makes all the difference,good job bro! adam



Edited by shadowkid (05/06/07 12:17 PM)
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#154741 - 05/06/07 01:09 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: shadowkid]
Hauser Offline
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Registered: 11/12/05
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Loc: United States
Not all brothers are supportive after being disclosed to, he's lucky to have a brother like you.


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#154798 - 05/06/07 08:53 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: Hauser]
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As a fellow family member, I would recommend getting him Mike Lew's book Victims No Longer. It gives a great overview of the issues he is dealing with. I am reading it with my husband right now...he reads it and highlights issues pertinent to him and I read those.

It really isn't easy to just understand how this has and will impact Dan...do try and learn more about csa. It will really help you to help him. Which is clearly why you are here.

All my Best


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#154809 - 05/06/07 09:51 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: healingpartner]
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i shouldn't have slapped him


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#154815 - 05/06/07 10:25 PM Re: Dan's older brother [Re: older_brother]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
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Loc: Carlisle, PA
OB,

You don't give any context for that, but in all honesty, no, slapping him wasn't a good idea. Whatever led to it, I think it's the wrong message to him - but my guess is you already know that.

Dan is trying to cope with some intensely emotional problems, and it's practically guaranteed he will react angrily and emotionally to them. He needs a lot of love and support, and mainly he needs to learn to rely on someone in real life - someone he can trust and talk to.

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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